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[easternghost]

Hi-
I'm really happy to see a site like this. My husband is a first year nephrology fellow at Hopkins Bayview and it's been rough. We actually started dating while he was an intern and married during his last year of residency. He took 2 years off from training to be a hospitalist, but is now back for more. I don't remember it being this rough during residency, but this time around, I keep battling waves of loneliness and it isn't pretty. It really is nice to know that there are other folks out there who truly understand.

Nice to meet you!

[DCJenn]

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Welcome!

We have a few people in Baltimore so hopefully you can find some likeminded souls.

Bayview is quite the gig. I'm all over the Center for Addiction and Pregnancy website to steal their ideas for my job.

and you're not imagining it- fellowship DOES suck way more than residency. ETA: I posted this in an introduction to someone else this summer:

and being the uber (and how exactly do I make an umlat) buzz kill, all I can say about fellowship, the BEST thing I can say about fellowship, is that it's over.

Fellowship is the worst parts of intern year combined with the worst aspects of hospitalist combined with the worst aspects of academia. There is nothing good about it except that eventually it ends.

For us it was sort of like a 3 year long ice cream headache. Brutally intensive pain but you know it won't kill you but you momentarily wish it would.

Jenn

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[houseelf]

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Welcome to our humble site!

Kelly

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Welcome!
You'll get some support around here...

[locumtenenswife]

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Welcome! I just found this site a few weeks ago myself and have really gotten a lot of great advice and support from many of the people who post here. My husband is currently a hospitalist and I'm a stay-at-home-wife, and I can imagine how difficult an adjustment its been for both of you now that he's in fellowship and feeling like an intern again. It's a lonely road for us spouses, but just know that many of us on this site are in the same boat and pulling for you!

[moonlight]

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Welcome!

We have a few people in Baltimore so hopefully you can find some likeminded souls.

Bayview is quite the gig. I'm all over the Center for Addiction and Pregnancy website to steal their ideas for my job.

and you're not imagining it- fellowship DOES suck way more than residency. ETA: I posted this in an introduction to someone else this summer:

and being the uber (and how exactly do I make an umlat) buzz kill, all I can say about fellowship, the BEST thing I can say about fellowship, is that it's over.

Fellowship is the worst parts of intern year combined with the worst aspects of hospitalist combined with the worst aspects of academia. There is nothing good about it except that eventually it ends.

For us it was sort of like a 3 year long ice cream headache. Brutally intensive pain but you know it won't kill you but you momentarily wish it would.

Jenn

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!! You got it girl!!! That's it in a nutshell.

Welcome to the group. I'm also new here and I'm so glad I have found this site. I just wish I had known about it 3 years ago!

[Meenah]

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Welcome, welcome, welcome!!!!!!!!!!!

[Flynn]

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Welcome!!!!!!!!

[easternghost]

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Thanks everyone! It really is great to know there are others out there going through the same experience. And yes...it really does feel like a really bad ice cream headache...I'll just try and pretend it's chocolate ice cream to help it feel better.

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He took 2 years off from training to be a hospitalist, but is now back for more. I don't remember it being this rough during residency, but this time around, I keep battling waves of loneliness and it isn't pretty.

Welcome!

I know EXACTLY what you mean. My DH took one year off from training to be a hospitalist/researcher before starting his cardiology fellowship this year. I've never had to battle loneliness until now...it's hard.

[houseelf]

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Um, yeah, fellowship can be a special sort of pain that they fail to tell you about in residency because the powers-that-be want you to think that it will be like residency. I think that this is one of medicine's better kept secrets.

I'm here to blow the lid off of that myth.

Kelly

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Nice to meet you, and welcome

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Fellowship is the worst parts of intern year combined with the worst aspects of hospitalist combined with the worst aspects of academia. There is nothing good about it except that eventually it ends.

For us it was sort of like a 3 year long ice cream headache. Brutally intensive pain but you know it won't kill you but you momentarily wish it would.

How did I miss this????

All wives of prospective fellows need to read, understand, and be quizzed over this. The bonus question will come from Jenn's much-earlier statement about fellowships sucking out your soul.

Just hang in there with the rest of us...for 3-5 years...

:therethere:

[weeniegeniewife]

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Hi, welcome to the site!