Saying hello, yet again.

[ud_grad]

I think this is my 3rd introduction in as many years. I don't come post here often, but at the times I've needed support, it has been helpful.

I'm married to an (almost) 4th year surgery resident, and we have a 16 month old daughter. We are also expecting baby #2 in November and I'm back here because doing this alone is exhausting!!! I need some tips and encouragement, so I'll be posting on some of the parenting forums, and am looking forward to eventually gain access to the marriage forum as well.

[poky]

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again! We just had a discussion about dealing with multiple kids as a practically single parent. You should get lots of encouragement and support here!

[Vanquisher]

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The only way to get your post count up so you can see the forums you want is to really join in some discussions and share your viewpoint. Before you know it you'll have 4000+ posts, or something really crazy like some people who have no lives.

Welcome back.

[Meenah]

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Welcome back and post often!

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Welcome! I'm new since you were last here, but I look forward to getting to know you.

[Flynn]

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Welcome!

Hang in there. Residency DOES end!

[houseelf]

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No worries about the boomerang appearances. This community has a lot of that and it's o.k. Sometimes you need us, sometimes you don't, and sometimes you need a healthy break before you become one with the computer. (No wait, that's me not you.)

Anyway, surgery can be a long, crazy, lonely road. Jump on in. Beware, however, of the addictive quality of our website. (Your resistance so far is admirable...What's your secret? )

Welcome back.

Kelly

[ud_grad]

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Thanks, everyone!

I don't purposely have resistance!

What I DO have is a local message board with over 60 moms within a 15 mile radius of my house. With a husband who is never home, I spend most of my free time at night chatting with them or actually meeting up at parks and such. They have been my lifesaver and on Memorial Day when everyone had BBQ's to go to and I was alone with our daughter, 3 of my local mom friends came over with their kids and we had a great time. Some have husbands who are cops and work weird hours, but none understand exactly the quantity of hours that residency requires. So I'm back here to people who can understand being alone so much, and yet married.... having a partner, but being a 'single parent'.

[DCJenn]

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Welcome back.

Sounds like you've found a great group of people to hang out with. But you're right- I was married to a fire fighter once and as much as that genre has got screwed up hours- they don't typically have the screwed up hours AND the perception that if you're not lighting your charcoal with cash, you soon will be.

Post often!

Jenn

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you're not lighting your charcoal with cash, you soon will be

Sweet turn on the Memorial Day anecdote. Awesome ...instant classic.

Welcome back ud_grad.

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Thanks, everyone!

I don't purposely have resistance!

What I DO have is a local message board with over 60 moms within a 15 mile radius of my house.

Are you in western PA? My bff lives in eastern OH and is on a msg board that sounds quite similar to that.

[ud_grad]

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Thanks, everyone!

I don't purposely have resistance!

What I DO have is a local message board with over 60 moms within a 15 mile radius of my house.

Are you in western PA? My bff lives in eastern OH and is on a msg board that sounds quite similar to that.

I am in the Philly suburbs. I met a group of women on a wedding message board several years ago and we all had babies around the same time. Around a year ago, we started meeting up on a monthly basis, but decided to create our own chatboard and many close friendships have stemmed from there. It's been great and there is one other 'residency widow' on there as well. BUT... her husband is not a surgery resident, and I've learned surgery comes with it's own set of rules (and hours)....

[v-girl]

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[moonlight]

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I joined up after you did, but welcome back!!! I also frequent another message board on another topic, but the folks here just "get it" more than anyone else online or IRL! Glad to see you back!

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Welcome back!