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  • So excited this exists!! :)

    Hi everyone!

    I've only spent a few minutes browsing the forum but I'm already so excited by the enthusiasm and cheerfulness! Just what I need to get me through this rotation, I think.

    It feels like months ago thanks to this crazy schedule, but just 2 weeks ago I married a longtime friend of mine after a wonderful year of dating and living together.

    He is in his 3rd year of medical school, and just at the beginning of his surgery rotation. Until now, I found the whole girlfriend of a med student thing to be not that hard. Last year I was busier than he was (I'm doing my Master's, working, and playing on a local soccer team). However, clerkship has been a huge change for us and unfortunately, my schedule is not helping. While he is gone from 6am-6:30pm, many of my shifts and classes are in the evening, so most nights I don't get home until about 9pm. With the alarm going off at 5 every morning, this leaves us about half an hour to spend any time together. Last night I ate dinner while he worked on a presentation. I know we will get through this and we'll still have some fun times this year, but it is difficult starting off married life this way and I am worried we will develop bad habits. I am really excited about the prospect of talking with other people who feel the pain and learning from others who have been at this longer than we have!

    Thanks for being here!

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    Congrats on getting married and finding us! My husband is also an MS3, and his rotations are a PITA, but not as bad as STEP 1 studying I can't say that things will get better, because I'm not any further along than you, but I can say that this forum has been an awesome place to support and be supported by the only people who can actually know what you are going through - other med spouses!

    So welcome, and post often!
    Jen
    Wife of a PGY-4 orthopod, momma to 2 DDs, caretaker of a retired race-dog, Hawkeye!


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      and congrats on being a newlywed! My DH is also a MS3 and I know how tough some of the rotations can be, we're in the midst of IM. I remember feeling as excited as you are when I first found this site too.

      Hang in there, post often and I look forward to getting to know you!
      Charlene~Married to an attending Ophtho Mudphud and Mom to 2 daughters

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        Hi!

        Congratulations on your marriage, and I'm so glad you found this site! Surgery, OB/Gyn, and IM were the hardest 3rd year rotations for us. At least you'll get that one out of the way, right? Good luck, and post here often. We're looking forward to getting to know you!
        Laurie
        My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)

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        • #5
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          Welcome!

          Kelly
          In my dreams I run with the Kenyans.

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            Congrats on your wedding.

            Surgery is definately one of the harder rotations with the call schedule and long hours. Hang in there and check back often.
            Kris

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              Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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                Welcome, glad you found us. Yes it will get better, then worse, then better!!! I always refer to it as a roller coaster. We are way past training and the roller coaster hasn't stopped yet. Congratulations on your marriage, and you will soon find that this website is the best wedding present.
                Luanne
                wife, mother, nurse practitioner

                "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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                  This is great, guys! I am glad to know that OB/GYN was one of the worst because that's over with too! Thanks for the welcome.

                  I'm thinking that most of you are from the US - are there many other Canadians on this board? I'm interested to discover the differences between the American and Canadian medical education systems. I imagine they're quite similar - it's nice to know that everyone has to go through Match Day etc..

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                    Welcome!
                    Wife to a Urologist. Mom to DD 15, DD 12, DD 2, and DD 1!
                    Native Jayhawk, paroled from GA... settling in Minnesota!

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                      Welcome!!!

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                        Congratulations! His surgery rotation will be over before you know it and he'll have others that are easier. There were times during M3 and M4 year that it seemed that DrK had more time than I did. (I distinctly remember one month where he got all the home repairs done when I was at work.) Then there are other times where we are ships passing.

                        I know that when you are newlywed you want to plan your life together and establish your routines and every moment you are apart feels like forever. That's hard to do when the routine keeps changing. Just take it one day at a time and be flexible. It's more important that you talk and listen to one another and work together than it is that you eat dinner together every night. Also, 90% of marriage is logistics so consider this to be a crash course. If your union is strong, you'll be able to weather a few nights apart here and there.

                        Sheesh, not even married a year and I'm saying things like "when you are newlywed". . . see, it goes by quickly.
                        Wife and #1 Fan of Attending Adult & Geriatric Psychiatrist.

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                          Welcome welcome! Happy that you've found this "sanctuary"
                          Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
                          Professional Relocation Specialist &
                          "The Official IMSN Enabler"

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                            Veronica
                            Mother of two ballerinas and one wild boy

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                              Welcome!
                              Flynn

                              Wife to post training CT surgeon; mother of three kids ages 17, 15, and 11.

                              “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” —Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets " Albus Dumbledore

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