New, too. DH too busy/never home, new baby, demanding job

I second the sentiments of the other thread just like mine. Residency is in full swing, and to top it all off, we've just had a baby.

I am glad to be a new mommy, but I never realized how lonely I would feel with a little one always around. It seems like an oxymoron: another warm body in the house, but I feel more lonely than before. I guess it's because I see other families out there with husbands who actually do chores, help out, and get to have time to pay attention to their wives/children. I long for that. Will it ever come, or is this what I have to look forward to for the next 20 years? He is in radiology, so I am told that it will get better, but it's hard to have unmet expectations for so many years (8 years my DH has been in school since we were in college together, so the whole relationship he's ben studying and working).

DH does try, believe me. But it doesn't often fall at the times when I need him to, like I'm in bed ready to sleep and he wants to hang out, hear about my day, and then make love. I wish that sequence happened at 8 pm, instead of 11 pm. I love him and miss him and NEED him.

[MDPhDWife]

You've come to the right place. Many if not all of us have been through something similar to what you've described! You're not alone.

[radwife]

Hi from another radiologists spouse! You've found the right place.

[Thirteen]

You know, I think everyone's beginning posts sound EXACTLY like this.
We're glad you're here, and when you post, you'll never be truly alone.

We get it

WELCOME!!

[scrub-jay]

Welcome!

[SoonerTexan]

Welcome! I'm new too!

[Flynn]

WELCOME!!!!

I posted something almost exactly like it about 6 years ago.

This site is wonderful!!!

Welcome welcome!
You've come to the right place that's for sure

[L.Jane]

Hello and Welcome! (It feels funny saying that since I'm relatively new myself!)

[SuzySunshine]

Welcome - been here for 5+ years myself - you've come to the right place

[moonlight]

Welcome to the group! You've found the right place to air it all out when times are really hard. Stick around and jump right in!! Glad you found us.

Welcome! I was here a few years ago briefly and just came back a week ago. I have been in your shoes. A big thing difference for me was to make mommy friends. For a few years I was on a national chat board with other women my age, and some of us in the area that I love started getting together. I created a private chat board for our group that has grown to 60 members. There is only one other doctor spouse, but I have a small network of friends that do understand and are home when everyone else is doing family things on the weekends. One is the wife a cop, one is the spouse of an entrepreneur, one friend's husband works two jobs. We plan playdates for our kids so that we can meet up, the kids get tired out, and we aren't bored at home. Now that we are moving next summer for a fellowship, I won't have that network I've come to rely upon so I'll be starting over again. But I will have the support of this board and all the people who have BTDT!

[bokelley]

Welcome, you found the right place!!
DH wants to do rads.

[ladymoreta]

Welcome! I'm looking forward to getting to know you. I agree about finding some other moms to spend time with. They won't replace the time that you need with your husband, but hopefully they will help with the feeling of being alone. And we are definitely here for you! Come here often!

Thanks for the warm welcome. I do have a rather large group of mommy friends and church friends, and that does help with the loneliness. But I just wish DH knew that a compromise on communication and possible "date" nights isn't me being a micro-manager, but a good wife. I'm trying to do this for him, too. Our relationship has taken such a different turn now that the baby is here, and I want to get back to where we were, at least a little bit.

I hope to talk to you all more about this and other things. For now, please keep the welcomes coming!!

Thanks,

Allison