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I am a medical spouse to a general surgeon (who is now activated and deployed stateside in the Army Reserves), Mommy to two awesome boys ages 9 and 4/12, and graduating medical school myself in a few weeks. July 1st I begin a residency in OB/Gyn. A lot on my plate. BTW, did I mention that I matched out of the area and that we will all have to relocate to PA?
To be honest, I'm not sure how I'm going to pull all of this off. I chose my original med school and then transferred based on where my husband did residency and got his first job. Now it's his turn to follow me, and while he says that he will, he keeps telling me that he doesn't think he can get a position that he likes there. As of now, he intends to continue to practice here in TN (once he gets out of active duty) until he gets a job or the house gets sold. My in-laws will help with the kids over the summer and it looks as though I'm moving to Pittsburgh in June. By myself. And I'm going to be an intern, with all that entails, without my children. Without my husband.
I wish I had a simple solution. Is it wrong for me to expect my husband to make a sacrifice for me and my career this time? I feel like it's my turn, but I also often feel as if I am going at this alone. And his EIGHT year residency did so much damage - to him, to our marriage - I'm concerned it won't survive the next four years.
Whew! What an introduction. Sorry for the long post, but I really needed to vent...
Linda
I am a medical spouse to a general surgeon (who is now activated and deployed stateside in the Army Reserves), Mommy to two awesome boys ages 9 and 4/12, and graduating medical school myself in a few weeks. July 1st I begin a residency in OB/Gyn. A lot on my plate. BTW, did I mention that I matched out of the area and that we will all have to relocate to PA?
To be honest, I'm not sure how I'm going to pull all of this off. I chose my original med school and then transferred based on where my husband did residency and got his first job. Now it's his turn to follow me, and while he says that he will, he keeps telling me that he doesn't think he can get a position that he likes there. As of now, he intends to continue to practice here in TN (once he gets out of active duty) until he gets a job or the house gets sold. My in-laws will help with the kids over the summer and it looks as though I'm moving to Pittsburgh in June. By myself. And I'm going to be an intern, with all that entails, without my children. Without my husband.
I wish I had a simple solution. Is it wrong for me to expect my husband to make a sacrifice for me and my career this time? I feel like it's my turn, but I also often feel as if I am going at this alone. And his EIGHT year residency did so much damage - to him, to our marriage - I'm concerned it won't survive the next four years.
Whew! What an introduction. Sorry for the long post, but I really needed to vent...
Linda
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