New - Husband to an M3

[ladymoreta]

Welcome! So glad you found this site! MS2.5 - MS3 were the worst year and a half of training for us, even worse than residency has been so far. Part of it was my unhappiness with my job, and part of it was that it was just getting more *real*. (Board Step 1, clinical rotations)

Looking forward to getting to know you!

Welcome! I think step I study was the WORST part of medical school for us. MS3 was tough because my husband had to do it long distance. You found the right place for commiseration!

Sorry for the delay in posts. In response to some of the above comments, we have had a couple sessions with a counselor. Unfortunately, when my wife started rotations, continuing the sessions proved to be impossible.
We have had a few big blow ups in the preceding weeks and yesterday she told me she wanted a divorce. I took the dog and suitcase and will be bouncing around friends places while the sh*t gets cleared up. We spoke by phone last night, and she seemed pretty resolute that she's done with us. I have made an appointment with the counselor, but at this point I don't know if she'll show up.
As of today, I'm probably going to leave her be for a week or so before granting her wish for the split.

[HouseofWool]

I'm so sorry. It is never easy.

[Meenah]

I'm sorry.

[ides]

I'm sorry! What is it with these people that as soon as they become more 'doctorly' they are too good for their spouses who support them and stand by them and all that jazz? Just seems shitty if you ask me. Again, I'm sorry Hunter.

[fluffhead]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope you can get past this soon.

[Finding Equanimity]

Sorry to hear that news! I hope you guys can work through this.

[ladymoreta]

I'm so sorry. You are always welcome around here. Once a medical spouse (or SO), always a member!

[diggitydot]

I'm so sorry Hunter. Once a med spouse, always a med spouse. Feel free to still hang here and vent away.

Hang in there.

[MarissaNicole]

I'm sorry.

[TigerLily]

I'm sorry. I hope you guys can work through it.

I'm hoping that the time apart will set her straight, but I'm not entirely optimistic. We haven't spoken since Sunday, I have been in contact with the in-laws. Since she is a non-traditional student, I'm hanging my hat on the stress of the 2 years of going back to school along with the 2+ years in med school have caused the majority of our problems.

[houseelf]

Welcome to our site. I am hoping for the best for you. I'm treading carefully so as not to offend some of our members, but medicine is so all-consuming that it can create some very selfish behavior. We've definitely had our share of growing pains through the years and sought marital counseling to get us through. Wishing you every peace at this time.

[BonBon]

I'm very sorry to hear that. Please continue to post if it helps during this difficult time.