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Hi all,
I am an attorney and my fiance is a fourth-year medical student living in another state and going through the match. I am having a little anxiety going through this mainly because of the uncertainty of where we will be living come July. I am a young attorney and just beginning to truly build a professional reputation in my industry. Obviously, it is not easy for me to get another job as an attorney in a new state (as I will have to apply for and take another bar exam which is a fairly involved process). However, we are trying to balance what will be best for both of us professionally as well as for us a couple.
We are in for a lot of excitement in the coming months (match, graduation, moving to a new home (whether in my current city or elsewhere), wedding and residency). I suspect much of my anxiety comes from the uncertainty of the next few months and the fact that I am being offered potential career opportunities that I may (or may not) be able to take advantage of. The timing is awful as a dream job is becoming available right before we find out if I will be relocating. This is compounded by the fact that I have been vacillating between wanting to move (I am one of those strange people who actually *enjoy* moving to a new place (itchy feet, I suppose)) and wanting to stay where I am to further build my career and our life together. I also wonder if my desire to move is because, at least then, I would have some idea of what is in store for me the next few months.
I am sure many of you have had the same experience (or are going through the same thing currently) and I am hoping to find some support out there as I don't know anyone who is experiencing the same thing as me. I expected to be a bit anxious and upset during this transition time -- but I am feeling overwhelmed. All of that being said, I am still excited to start this new chapter in our life together and I am trying to stay focused on the positives!
-N
I am an attorney and my fiance is a fourth-year medical student living in another state and going through the match. I am having a little anxiety going through this mainly because of the uncertainty of where we will be living come July. I am a young attorney and just beginning to truly build a professional reputation in my industry. Obviously, it is not easy for me to get another job as an attorney in a new state (as I will have to apply for and take another bar exam which is a fairly involved process). However, we are trying to balance what will be best for both of us professionally as well as for us a couple.
We are in for a lot of excitement in the coming months (match, graduation, moving to a new home (whether in my current city or elsewhere), wedding and residency). I suspect much of my anxiety comes from the uncertainty of the next few months and the fact that I am being offered potential career opportunities that I may (or may not) be able to take advantage of. The timing is awful as a dream job is becoming available right before we find out if I will be relocating. This is compounded by the fact that I have been vacillating between wanting to move (I am one of those strange people who actually *enjoy* moving to a new place (itchy feet, I suppose)) and wanting to stay where I am to further build my career and our life together. I also wonder if my desire to move is because, at least then, I would have some idea of what is in store for me the next few months.
I am sure many of you have had the same experience (or are going through the same thing currently) and I am hoping to find some support out there as I don't know anyone who is experiencing the same thing as me. I expected to be a bit anxious and upset during this transition time -- but I am feeling overwhelmed. All of that being said, I am still excited to start this new chapter in our life together and I am trying to stay focused on the positives!
-N
We're going through the match this year as well!
After seriously contemplating staying behind while DH moved for residency, I ended up moving and taking the bar exam in our new state. It all worked out in the end … but the stress of studying for another bar exam, moving and trying to find a new job was not fun. The good news is you have this wonderful website full of people who get it. Hang in there!!
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