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  • Wife, Mom, and struggling.

    Hey all.

    My husband is two months in to his intern year, and I am a SAHM to a 17 month old. We've never had "relationship issues" before (up until the baby was born, of course , but things are kind of rough right now I feel like a single parent, and my husband hardly even acknowledges me on his way from the front door to the bed. I know he is beyond exhausted and stressed and that we are both working hard, but this is definitely going to be a trying time in our relationship. I'm trying to be positive and supportive and to pick my battles, and I'm hoping that things get a little more manageable soon.

    I'm glad to have found this board
    .:Wife and Mom:.
    .:Keeping it Classy in Chattanooga, Tn:.

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    Welcome! I'm also a SAHM to a 17 month old!

    I'm sorry intern year is going so rough. Yes, it's difficult for the doctor, but that doesn't mean it's not just as difficult for you in other ways. You've come to the right place. Post often - looking forward to getting to know you!
    Laurie
    My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)

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    • #3
      Welcome, I'm glad you found us. What you describe (unfortunately) isn't that unusual for being a new parent or a new doctor. Combine them and it really intensifies. You will find alot of support here.
      Luanne
      wife, mother, nurse practitioner

      "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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      • #4
        Groan. BTDT. I remember the first six months after our son was born as being very much the same. We went from functioning so well as a team to really not knowing how the heck to get through those first years.

        Here's a little hope: I know it's off in the future for you a bit, but we are now the proud parents of 16, 15, 12, 7 and 5 year old children. Three of our children were born during training. Life after the medical training years is good, but the training years are hard.

        Join in here ... there are so many people who are struggling and are where you are ... you are definitely not alone.

        Kris
        ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
        ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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        • #5
          Hang in there! The first few months of intern year are a pretty tough time. Big changes and adjustments.
          -Mommy, FM wife, Disney Planner and Hoosier

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          • #6
            Welcome! Post often- this site can be such a great source of support.

            I have 5 kids- we had 3 before starting med school, then 1 after MS 1 and the last baby just after the end of intern year. It's been tough to get a chance to connect with my husband. Intern year was especially hard bc he switched rotations so often-- it was tough for him to feel like he knew what ge was doing, call was brutal, plus I couldn't keep up with what he was up to really. Add a toddler!! So stressful.

            Peggy

            Aloha from paradise! And the other side of training!

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            • #7
              Welcome! You've come to the right place!
              Veronica
              Mother of two ballerinas and one wild boy

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              • #8
                Welcome and stick around!
                Married to a newly minted Pediatric Rad, momma to a sweet girl and a bunch of (mostly) cute boy monsters.



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                • #9
                  My DH is an intern as well and thus far this year has by far been the toughest yet. Hang in there and welcome to the crapfest known as residency.
                  Charlene~Married to an attending Ophtho Mudphud and Mom to 2 daughters

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                  • #10
                    Welcome!! You've found the right place at the right time.
                    -Ladybug

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                    • #11
                      Welcome to the shitfest.

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                      • #12
                        Welcome! We totally get it, you've come to the right place.
                        Tara
                        Married 20 years to MD/PhD in year 3 of MFM fellowship. SAHM to five wonderful children (#6 due in August), a sweet GSD named Bella, a black lab named Toby, and 1 guinea pig.

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                        • #13
                          PGY4 Nephrology Fellow

                          Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.

                          ~ Rumi

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                          • #14
                            Welcome! Is your Dh doing a medical or surgical residency? Residency is rough all around. You are totally not alone in your struggle. Hope to get to know you better
                            Wife to Hand Surgeon just out of training, mom to two lovely kittys and little boy, O, born in Sept 08.

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                            • #15
                              Welcome!

                              Stick around and post often! Intern year is rough and having other folks who "get it" to comiserate with can make it a little bit easier to get through.
                              Event coordinator, wife and therapist to a peds attending

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