Hello/Introduction

[JDAZ11]

Mrs. MD, Esq.: Wow - so you really had a busy summer! Congrats on getting through all of that! Thankfully we aren't getting married for another couple of months, so I didn't even think about wedding stuff from April-Oct (I actually planned it so that it wouldn't interfere with the Feb exam if I failed... I was obviously very confident). Congrats on getting married and being sworn in! Sounds like a pretty successful summer, I am sure you will find something soon.

[Meenah]

Welcome, glad you found us!!!

[ladymoreta]

Welcome!!! Looking forward to getting to know you!

[GrayMatterWife]

He is doing a Endovascular Neurosurgery fellowship - which he seems to really be enjoying.

Congrats on passing the bar!

I am also a lawyer married to a NSG fellow. Mine is doing a functional fellowship right now. I am lonely, too--my DH is out of town for his fellowship. However, while I am lonely, and am definitely not alone. My three kids--ages 7, 3, and 1--are here to keep me "company." I practiced at a Big Law firm before we moved here for residency, and since then have been a federal law clerk. What kind of work would you eventually like to do?

Finding a job may be hard in your circumstances. The market is terrible. And, I assume if he's doing an ENDOVAS fellowship, he'll be going into academics? Unless he's in an enfolded fellowship that rolls into an attending position, you are not going to be there more than two years probably, right? If that's the case, it's going to be hard for you to get hired as a brand-new attorney, unless you are not forthcoming about the fact you'll be leaving in less than two years. Most firms will see you as a resource suck. They see this: you don't know anything and they will spend resources training you...and just about the time you could be profitable, you'd leave. You should try contract work. I know a lot of attorneys who do that through organizations that place attorneys on a project-by-project basis.

[bokelley]

Welcome!!

[scrub-jay]

Welcome! Post often, you'll like it here!

[Momo]

Hey there! Welcome aboard!

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Welcome!

Not a lawyer here but also stuck in a transient situation. We moved for med school knowing we likely wouldn't stay in Cleveland where he's in school. The job market is terrible here so I'm commuting between my husband/home in Cleveland to work in Boston. It's been brutal but honestly, finding a job here in my industry was very, very unlikely. Like you, I've had a lot of trouble making friends. It's hard because I'm not around much (I travel 2x/week plus weekends) and since we're likely leaving in May/June for residency (please, please, please I PRAY we're leaving), I'm not super motivated to make a lot of friends. I'm not a joiner by nature so it's hard to force yourself to make friends that you know won't last.

I do know that I need to do better and put myself out there more when residency starts. It's hard for me but I really must make friends or I'm never going to survive residency. I'm pregnant due in January so I'm hoping to parlay the kiddo into some friendships...yes, I'm pathetically hoping my child helps me make friends.

You've come to the right place! We've got lots of professionals/ex-professionals who have experienced the moving thing you're describing. They've been through it all and are a great source of knowledge and advice!

Keep us posted on wedding planning too, that's very exciting!

[JDAZ11]

Congrats on passing the bar!

I am also a lawyer married to a NSG fellow. Mine is doing a functional fellowship right now. I am lonely, too--my DH is out of town for his fellowship. However, while I am lonely, and am definitely not alone. My three kids--ages 7, 3, and 1--are here to keep me "company." I practiced at a Big Law firm before we moved here for residency, and since then have been a federal law clerk. What kind of work would you eventually like to do?

Finding a job may be hard in your circumstances. The market is terrible. And, I assume if he's doing an ENDOVAS fellowship, he'll be going into academics? Unless he's in an enfolded fellowship that rolls into an attending position, you are not going to be there more than two years probably, right? If that's the case, it's going to be hard for you to get hired as a brand-new attorney, unless you are not forthcoming about the fact you'll be leaving in less than two years. Most firms will see you as a resource suck. They see this: you don't know anything and they will spend resources training you...and just about the time you could be profitable, you'd leave. You should try contract work. I know a lot of attorneys who do that through organizations that place attorneys on a project-by-project basis.

UGH! I know, and have known that for years now. I made some bad decisions - for instance, I wasn't willing to summer out here (we also weren't engaged until the fall of 3L - so although we had been dating for what feels like forever - I wasn't very willing to alter my life plans before then). I ended up turning down an offer at the Biglaw firm where I summered (they also don't have an office here). I couldn't see how we would ever see each other since we would both be working most weekends (and the cost of living in both cities - plus airfare - would have been crazy). I also didn't apply for clerkships, again I wasn't really willing to entertain the idea of leaving until we were engaged. At that point it was too late to apply. That would have been the smartest way to deal with this in-between phase. So honestly a lot of this bad situation is self-created.

Unfortunately, I have been pretty honest with potential employers about the possibility of leaving in 2 years. Right now it's hard to be sure whether the potential for leaving or simply being a first-year is the real issue. I know a lot of people that left their first firm after 2 years, so the issue annoys me a little. But I guess it is what it is. And he is mainly interested academics, but our plans are completely unsettled at the moment. If I found a great job here, we would consider staying - even if he had to change his plans (or so he says).

I suppose I am lucky that I didn't have to deal with moving for his residency AND I have no idea how you are managing three little kids with your job while your husband is away. I'm impressed (and hope his fellowship is only one year!).

I am also totally open to contract work, and have had interviews with a couple of recruiters and temp agencies. Right now temp gig would be perfect - needing time off for our wedding (which is in my home town) makes me even less appealing for a permanent spot. Hopefully something works out (again being a first-year doesn't help me much, even with contract spots).

[JDAZ11]

Welcome!

Not a lawyer here but also stuck in a transient situation. We moved for med school knowing we likely wouldn't stay in Cleveland where he's in school. The job market is terrible here so I'm commuting between my husband/home in Cleveland to work in Boston. It's been brutal but honestly, finding a job here in my industry was very, very unlikely. Like you, I've had a lot of trouble making friends. It's hard because I'm not around much (I travel 2x/week plus weekends) and since we're likely leaving in May/June for residency (please, please, please I PRAY we're leaving), I'm not super motivated to make a lot of friends. I'm not a joiner by nature so it's hard to force yourself to make friends that you know won't last.

I do know that I need to do better and put myself out there more when residency starts. It's hard for me but I really must make friends or I'm never going to survive residency. I'm pregnant due in January so I'm hoping to parlay the kiddo into some friendships...yes, I'm pathetically hoping my child helps me make friends.

Wow - I'm really impressed that you are able to commute b/t the two cities. The thought of doing that totally freaked me out. Hopefully not too much longer for you! And congrats on the pregnancy, that's so exciting! And likely will result in meeting a lot of new people (and being really really busy), which is a nice perk I actually occasionally joke about having a kid to make "mom friends" and/or have something to do. I'm not at all ready to have to have kids, so in my case it might actually be pathetic (would likely complicate things with whole wedding dress fitting issue - so not the best plan for now, lol).

I've joined a pretty social gym and have been attending bar association functions, so I have met some people. But I am not super outgoing, and every single time I have to really talk myself into attending an event alone. Literally sitting here trying to convince myself to attend a community service event as I type this.... ah, so much fun!

I will keep you posted on the wedding planning - it is by far the most exciting thing I've got going on at the moment. This week's focus is guest transportation, not the most exciting topic. The following week (when I'm home for thanksgiving) will be flowers, so hopefully I will have some exciting details to share then

[GrayMatterWife]

I'm impressed (and hope his fellowship is only one year!).

Hahaha! Don't confusion impressive with crazy. I am more the latter. I just disguise it well.

My DH's fellowship is one year. We are in the process of job-hunting. I will lose my job when we move.

[MarissaNicole]

I'm the other jd married to a nsg resident. I was fortunate to get a job out of law school (they knew DH was a med student), worked there for 2 years until we moved for residency. The last year I've kept busy with contract work, but its dried up so I am job hunting again. The market sucks, and coming from a no-name law school is not helping my cause. Hopefully you'll have better luck and if you can, avoid telling them that your df is in fellowship!

[moonlight]

Welcome to the group! I think most of us on here found this group when we were a little bit down in the dumps. Lots of great support on here. glad you found us!

[diggitydot]

Welcome to the crapfest. We get it.

[lovelight]

Welcome!!