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[alotofyarn]

Hi all! Thank you for your warm welcome into the community. = )

To answer some questions, no our family isn't giving us any grief about the move, it's more like we are grieving about having to move from the home program. We never expected to have to move this far away. Future Hubby says he didn't think it would matter and that our home program would pick him up. But that fell through. = ( He's pretty distraught, and I am too, but we are just facing the fact that we have to do this and it's what is best for his career right now. Just trusting the Lord that this is where we are supposed to be for now.

As far as where we will be, he is completing his residency at a hospital in New Orleans in Pathology. I have to apply for a teaching license there and it should automatically be approved but my understanding is that public school in LA is much different than here in Alabama. Especially in the metro area. I haven't found a job yet (it's still really early in the hiring season for teachers), but I'm hopeful that the closer the new school year in August gets the better my chances at an offer are. I'm still really scared. I don't want to have to do something else for a year other than teach. It's all I've ever known.

It's been especially hard thinking about leaving my job, especially when this was the year that I was due to get tenure and a raise (a big one). But I want my marriage to SO more than I want my job, so even though it isn't easy it will be worth it, I believe.

We're in New Orleans too! We had pretty much the same reaction on match day, although fortunately we were alone at home and just got an e-mail because we had an early match. It's actually home for me, but we were surprised by it given his rank list and feedback we had gotten from programs. In the end, it has been the absolute best thing for us, and we are happy there. Please let me know if you have any questions! There's also a FB group for the Nola area too: https://www.facebook.com/groups/345969052259870/

[Doctor+Teacher=Love]

We're in New Orleans too! We had pretty much the same reaction on match day, although fortunately we were alone at home and just got an e-mail because we had an early match. It's actually home for me, but we were surprised by it given his rank list and feedback we had gotten from programs. In the end, it has been the absolute best thing for us, and we are happy there. Please let me know if you have any questions! There's also a FB group for the Nola area too: https://www.facebook.com/groups/345969052259870/

Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for your reply. You have no idea how comforting it is to me to know that someone else felt the same way. I will definitely get into the Facebook group. Much appreciated!

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

You will find more than a few people on here who were surprised by the match! Medicine is a fickle beast. But glad you found us at the right time! Intern year should have it's ups and downs.

I don't think we have any active Path spouses right now (am I crazy?) but plenty of experiences with medicine, surprises and moving!

What do you teach?

[WolfpackWife]

Welcome! We're happy to have you! My husband is MS4 and we just matched into IM residency back at home - we're thrilled, but our experience is the opposite of you: we moved away from family and friends for medical school, and that was very tough. I know how you feel, being nervous and hesitant about moving. It's really hard, but I'm sure you'll come out of it a stronger person on the other side.

I hope your job search in your new area goes well!

[rufflesanddots]

Hi, welcome!

Man, what a stressful time you're going through. We were originally on the west coast all set to start post-bacc when the program got cut! We ended up finding a program on the other side of the country in my husband's home state and moved a couple months before our wedding. I had trouble finding work for a few months, we were still finalizing the wedding, and my DH was figuring out how to be a student again. Very stressful, but looking back it was a wonderful time full of strength and growth. It became "us against the world" and we made it work. It was messy and hard sometimes, and still is, of course, but we have really fond memories of our experiences during post-bacc and made some lifelong friends. I'm confident you will too, and I bet you'll find some of the resident SOs can identify with exactly how you're feeling (as will the SOs here).

What's your wedding going to be like?? Do you have any hobbies or pets?

[medpedspouse]

Welcome, welcome!!

I am so sorry about your match day experience. As others have said, medicine can throw some cruel punches. However, places and experiences that seemed undesirable have surprised us. I am hoping the same for you two - that NOLA may not be your forever place but may be your it was fun while we were newlyweds place.

Can I just say that I am selfishly glad that you are going to New Orleans? It is a popular destination for conferences. Therefore, there is a good chance that several of us maybe looking you up to meet for coffee and beignets. Plus there is the ahhhmazing Alotofyarn and her cute family...that girl can show you some good food.

[Bittersweet]

Welcome! I'm sorry the Match gods weren't kind. Hopefully, it ends up being a great experience and adventure. In the meantime, I'll keep my fingers crossed that you find a great job. I know how stressful that can be.


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[gcuthbe1]

Welcome! Is your wedding before the move? Wedding planning paired with planning for all those other changes must be tough!

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[alotofyarn]

Welcome, welcome!!

I am so sorry about your match day experience. As others have said, medicine can throw some cruel punches. However, places and experiences that seemed undesirable have surprised us. I am hoping the same for you two - that NOLA may not be your forever place but may be your it was fun while we were newlyweds place.

Can I just say that I am selfishly glad that you are going to New Orleans? It is a popular destination for conferences. Therefore, there is a good chance that several of us maybe looking you up to meet for coffee and beignets. Plus there is the ahhhmazing Alotofyarn and her cute family...that girl can show you some good food.

This is true. I hope you like to eat, because we do a lot of that, and the food is REALLY good!

[L.Jane]

Welcome! I followed my DH after the match half way across the country and right after I got my MEd. I ended up subbing for a year (this was all during a hiring freeze) and then becoming a nanny and was with the same two families for three and a half years. You will make it work! Its hard being the trailing spouse but this is a great group for support.

[Howfunitis]

Welcome!!! Glad your here!! I ditto what everyone else has said! I'm married to an MS4 and we matched into Gen Surg. We moved away from family and friends for medical school (we had just gotten married 3 months prior) and now will be moving even farther away for Residency. Can I just add moving away from family and friends was the best thing for us? We got to focus on ourselves without pressure of family around. As a couple we were able to enjoy each other's company to the fullest without all the added stress or having to "share" him with anyone else.
Hope you find a job in NO!!!

[Auspicious]

Newbie on the Block Here!

Welcome! My husband is also in pathology. He's almost five years out of training now, but I've been on this board since the start of med school and to say I've found it helpful would be an understatement. Residency was a good time in our lives, so I'm happy for you, just embarking on that phase.

I'm sorry match was rough, and it's understandable feeling the way you do, but I agree with everyone else that it wouldn't be at all unusual if you see it all differently in the not-too-distant future.

So welcome again, please stick around. We're all looking forward to hearing more from you.

[Doctor+Teacher=Love]

Thank you all so much! I have a feeling that we will end up having a wonderful experience in New Orleans. = ) Julie (Auspicious) thank you for your comment! That's awesome that he has finished all his training. My future husband is hoping to end up in derm path. Of course we will have a fellowship after we finish residency but as long as he's happy, I'm happy. I'm sure I'll be hitting you all up with advice on adjusting to residency. = )

[ladymoreta]

I'm so far behind around here! Just wanted to bump this and say welcome! I'm sorry the match wasn't what you hoped for. We were also surprised by DH's match, but it turned out to be a fantastic place to land for 4 years. I hope you have a similar experience.

[Windsurfer]

Welcome!