surgical residency

[Alielifin]

Hi,

My husband just started a surgical residency program and I'm feeling slightly overwhelmed. We moved across the country early June and while we are closer to family, they are still a good 2-4 hour drive/plane ride away. We have an 18 month old who will be starting daycare next Monday because I'll be starting a new teaching job. I just want to know others have survived the first year of their spouse being a resident!

Thanks,
Alison

[poky]

Hi,

My husband just started a surgical residency program and I'm feeling slightly overwhelmed. We moved across the country early June and while we are closer to family, they are still a good 2-4 hour drive/plane ride away. We have an 18 month old who will be starting daycare next Monday because I'll be starting a new teaching job. I just want to know others have survived the first year of their spouse being a resident!

Thanks,
Alison

Hi, and welcome, and yes, others have definitely survived; you're in the right spot!

[gcuthbe1]

Hi and welcome! Sorry to hear you're having a tough adjustment period right now! Intern year is no cakewalk. Glad it seems like you're pretty happy with location given proximity to family and finding a job right away!

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[Alielifin]

thanks, your reply is reminding me I should focus on the positive!

[SoonerTexan]

Welcome! You're in the right spot. Intern year was the lowest of the low for us. It gets better!

[MAPPLEBUM]

Welcome! We moved 15 hours away for residency, which put us 24hr drive from home! The first year is really tough but I'm glad to hear you have a job. Believe it or not that'll make the transition easier. I found imsn first year of residency. You've come to the right place!

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[OrionGrad]

Welcome! There are definitely lots of us on here who've been in your place. It will get better!!

[WolfpackWife]

Welcome! Sending you strength from the trenches of our PGY-1 year, too. It's been...interesting so far and I'm quickly seeing the rest of the year will be major highs and major lows. It's hard to get used to. I totally get it. We're glad you found us!


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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Yes, we are in our 5th year of a surgical residency. I can assure you, #itgetsbetter

We had a 6 month old when intern year started and I was sobbing by August that this was awful. By Feb, it had improved enough that we got pregnant again (intentionally) and it really has gotten better every year

[rufflesanddots]

Hi!! Welcome. You'll get great support here--many many women (and some dudes!) making great lives for themselves despite their spouses having demanding careers.

Congratulations on your new teaching job!

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[MarissaNicole]

We are in year seven of a surgical sub specialty. Intern year is a lot of adjustments. It's not easy but you will survive. My motto was hope for the best, expect the worst. Make plans and don't sit around waiting for him!

Welcome!


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[L.Jane]

Hello! My DH and I were still dating intern year of surgery, and long distance while I finished my M'Ed. Surgery is effing tough. My motto to get me through it was, expect the worst (not going to come home, wont be able to make it to some event...) and you might be pleasantly surprised. I also made sure to make my own life so I was not depending on him. Not that you asked for all this advice, so ignore me if you want, but I fully suggest finding some support/help for you and the baby so you don't get lonely or have to do everything alone. It does get better. I had my first his chief year and he was never home and it was ugly for me. Having help and support would have made a huge difference. You have found the right place to vent, brag, ask questions, find support, and just blow off steam.

[niener]

We're in the 6th and final year of surgical training and *finally* I can see the light at the end of this tunnel. It absolutely does get better, but in the meantime this is a great place to land! Welcome to the club

[alotofyarn]

Welcome! We had our first kid during PGY1 of surgical residency, and I was working as well. Not ideal, bu doable. It's a rough year, but you'll get through it!

[Howfunitis]

Hi!!! So, we are intern year as well in a surgical residency. Let's see... I moved cross country back in June. I have a toddler who will be 3 in Dec and I have a 5 month old ( crazy right?) All our family/friends live about 5 hours away on a plane ride or a 1.5 days driving (3 days when you have kids) but so far like everyone says hope for the best, expect the worse. You are in the right place! Welcome!!