Husband 1st year....harder than I thought

Hi everyone,

My husband just started his first year a little over a month ago. Everyone kept saying last year how hard it was going to be. I thought that I could prepare. HA! I have found myself in a new city where I don't know anyone my age. My husband has met so many new people through school and I haven't yet found my own "social group."

I was just researching some medical student spouse organizations. I don't think that there are any locally, but would like to start one. Do any of you have any experience with orgs like this? Do the schools typically sponsor them? Trying to figure out where to go with this. Thanks to all of you who have been through this who can offer words of wisdom.......my hubbie is doing such a good job of not leaving me out of things in the meantime.

Thanks,
mdugas

[DCJenn]

Welcome Michelle-

There are several people here who have started or participated in support groups for spouses. I was a part of one that fizzled so I'm no good at all, advice wise.

Check the archives, we probably have that topic in there somewhere. In the meantime, welcome!

Jenn

Michelle,

Welcome! Yes, the first year is tough. There is no spouse group at my wife's medical school; so, I can't give any advice concerning starting one. Good luck with starting a medical spouse group. Perhaps, in the meantime, you can meet folks through another interest or hobby that you have?

Thanks for the encouragement

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I have been doing more research and am currently working on a questionnaire to determine if there is interest. My hubby's school's student affairs office is going to distribute the questionnaire for me and send me the responses. I am trying and will let you guys know what happens......please continue to give me any suggestions that you may have!

Michelle

[houseelf]

Mdugas,

This is one of the harder aspects to deal with: the "built in" social network for the medical spouse with little or no network for the other spouse. I find that I have made most of my good friends after moves to new cities while doing things that I enjoy. I know that people have joined Bunko groups, book clubs, churches, gyms, classes, whatever.
This way you have an automatic springboard for discussion.

Besides, I personally find it a little more interesting if the social network is comprised of both medical and nonmedical types.

Best of luck, my heart goes out to you.

Kelly

That's really cool, and you should definately go for it. I wanted to do the same thing when my man started at a school with no support group. He's perversely shy about some things, so he talked me out of it. ::sigh::

Good luck!