I don't think I every officially did the introduction back when I joined a few years ago. But all these re-introductions inspired me to finally step into the spotlight. So here goes.
I am currently married to a 2nd year anasthesia resident. We've only been married for 2.5 years but together for over 8, so I've been involved in the whole process from pre-med/MCAT days. I trully believe that if our relationship can survive med school and residency, we go through anything. We met in college and moved in to med school housing a few months after I graduated (DH already finished a year of med school). At his insistence we didn't get married until after the match (he had to have a job prior to getting married). We got very lucky that we were able to stay in NYC for the entire process (but still had a nice tour of the boroughs). I refused to be away from friends and family and don't think I could have survived without their help. For us med school was by far much more trying on our relationship than residency. I was working full time and hating my job but it paid well and we needed the money. I felt that we couldn't afford for both of us to do what we liked and one of us needs to do what pays well. Being misreable for 3 years resulted in finishing med school with "only" $100K in loans.
As much as this site helped me through the rough periods, often I feel that I have very little in common with most of the women here. While family is important to me, having children does not come ahead of other needs. I'm a firm believer that kids can wait until we're fully done with training and have traveled to a few more continents. We never had to worry about our electricity being turned off, buying our clothes in Walmart or skip haircuts for years. Although I'm pro-choice, I'm also very much a Republican. And I guess this explains why I don't post often. Aside from med school/residency related issues, I can't relate to many other topics.
I am currently married to a 2nd year anasthesia resident. We've only been married for 2.5 years but together for over 8, so I've been involved in the whole process from pre-med/MCAT days. I trully believe that if our relationship can survive med school and residency, we go through anything. We met in college and moved in to med school housing a few months after I graduated (DH already finished a year of med school). At his insistence we didn't get married until after the match (he had to have a job prior to getting married). We got very lucky that we were able to stay in NYC for the entire process (but still had a nice tour of the boroughs). I refused to be away from friends and family and don't think I could have survived without their help. For us med school was by far much more trying on our relationship than residency. I was working full time and hating my job but it paid well and we needed the money. I felt that we couldn't afford for both of us to do what we liked and one of us needs to do what pays well. Being misreable for 3 years resulted in finishing med school with "only" $100K in loans.
As much as this site helped me through the rough periods, often I feel that I have very little in common with most of the women here. While family is important to me, having children does not come ahead of other needs. I'm a firm believer that kids can wait until we're fully done with training and have traveled to a few more continents. We never had to worry about our electricity being turned off, buying our clothes in Walmart or skip haircuts for years. Although I'm pro-choice, I'm also very much a Republican. And I guess this explains why I don't post often. Aside from med school/residency related issues, I can't relate to many other topics.
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