Broke up with intern

Hello fellow iMSNer -

I posted earlier about dating internship long distance. WE have since broken up. its really because he feels he can't commit to full time relationship in this time. Sometimes, I want to plain believe him but sometimes I just think, its all about me.

Since then, I have come to realized I have been so engulfed in his world. Rotaing my schedule according to his on call days yadda yadda. I guess once the honeymoon stage was transitioning away, maybe the realities of relationship and distance set in.

I wonder if I really like him so much or am I just lost in my own life. I feel like I'm always trying to define myself by if I'm dating a guy or not. And I know break up always hit you make u insecure. I just want to stop this cycle. I can't blame medicine for our breakup 100% but I sure wish he was not a doctor anymore

Thanks for letting me complain. It has been nice to be a part of this website during my brief encounter with men and medicine. But deep in my heart, I hope I won't revisit this scenario ever again. Best wishes.

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I'm sorry it didn't work out. I have to say those were a lot of challenges to heap on a new relationship: internship and long distance are both HUGE things to be able to work around. Don't feel bad that they turned out to be insurmountable.

I saw on the other board that you were wondering if it was unreasonable to expect him to call you daily. On the one hand, it's a typical expectation with a new relationship. The first time my husband and I were long distance from each other, we spoke every day even though he hates talking on the phone (and really, so do I). But on the other hand, it's pretty unreasonable given the schedule of an intern. DH was away last month, and I was ecstatic to hear from him every third day for just a few moments at a time. Kind of a lose-lose situation there!

Anyway. Thanks for the update, and best wishes to you both!