Newbie Here

[cylverdust]

Hello,
My name is Cheryl and my boyfriend will be starting Med school come Aug. We are not sure as to what school he will in. I am moving with him and we are gonna get married before we leave. My life will be turned upside down I know but I love this man so much. I am planning on working full time and attending college part time myself so I am not worried about the transition, I just worry how not seeing each other very much will affect us.
I am sure you will hear a lot more from me as med school approaches but right now.. I am ready. I am reading up on what the application and interview process is. I am trying to understand exactly what he is going through and will continue to go through so as to be prepared and be part of it. I cannot support him if I don't understand.
Cheryl

[Meenah]

Welcome,
The more you know and understand the easier it will be. There will also be those days that no matter what you know it doesn't matter, it will be hard. Always have your own life because there will be many lonely days & nights if you don't. Read through all of the posts and post often.
Luanne

Welcome

I consider myself a newbie as well. I joined in November with a rant about being a SO of a 4th year Phd/MD. It's a totally different world dating a doc-to-be. Being a GF with no ring, no kids and different domiciles, kind of makes me an odd duck on this site. But I have found some of the information here quite helpful.

You'll be fine. Having a life outside your guy's makes it easier. No matter how much information you find it still won't be enough. Everyday is a little different. I begin dating my guy at the beginning of his 3rd year. So, he has always be in the high/low stress mode. It's been weird. We started out dating like "normal" people. Romantic dinners, spending hours on the phone, just hanging out! So when the change came I didn't understand. Now, I see him as a "plate spinner." Trying to keep everything going at once. When you see someone who is so organized begin missing important items (me). It's difficulty to take. The outside world doesn't really understand and neither will you. You now have become a member of an elite club.

Now you have a place to come, when these moments happen.

The posts are supportive and sometime rather harsh. But it's like having a true friend. If they can't tell you you're wearing ugly shoes who will? My guy is now is going through the interview process. I realize it's his "thing". Sometimes his not able to tell me at that moment the who, what and why of what he's thinking. Oops, I forget he's a man! But when he can, he does. I've learned to take with a grain of salt the comments of people who talk about how they discuss everything in detail before, during and after with their SO. My life ain't that grand, but I'm happy with how things are developing. I'm learning that silence isn't always a bad thing. Remember, men are ego driven. No man will confess he doesn't have an answer; and the ego of docs are probably worst.

Congrats and welcome home Y-

[cylverdust]

Thank you

It sounds like I did find the perfect spot to be during the med school process. I am so glad. Thank you. :christmas: Merry Christmas to everyone.
I can't wait to get to know everyone!!

[cylverdust]

Welcome,
Read through all of the posts and post often.
Luanne

I will certainly do just that. This group sounds wonderful!

[cylverdust]

Re: Welcome

Congrats and welcome home Y-

Thank you!

[Meenah]

Don't be shy, jump right in and start posting.
Luanne

[cylverdust]

Glad I found you guys

I am so glad I found this site. Ya'll are pretty awesome!