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I cannot tell you how reassuing it was to read through the posts on this message board. I've been dating somebody for about 3 years who is now in his second year of an internal medicine residency. I long for the med school days!
This year's been particularly rough and it unfortunately conincides with a critical time in our relationship. We're both very much in love and deeply committed to one another. Seeing him once or twice a week and talking on the phone evenings when he's not on call or post-call just hasn't felt like enough lately. I really miss him and have been thinking about moving in together. The hitch: we're not quite ready for marriage. I'm sold on kids, want to have at least one. Not now, but after his chief residency year. He knows he doesn't want kids now, but can't say whether he will in the future. It's been rough hanging in with the uncertainty of his response. Has anybody encountered anything like this?
We cycle through some really good months, but then there will be a rough rotation that keeps him too busy to see me often enough for my tastes and I grow increasingly insecure. We talk, he reassures me that his answer isn't no, he eventually starts a less demanding service and I feel better... for a few months...
He's worth the wait, but I am not the most patient person in the world. I want to cope without making myself and him miserable in the process.
Any pearls of wisdom?
-DB
I cannot tell you how reassuing it was to read through the posts on this message board. I've been dating somebody for about 3 years who is now in his second year of an internal medicine residency. I long for the med school days!
This year's been particularly rough and it unfortunately conincides with a critical time in our relationship. We're both very much in love and deeply committed to one another. Seeing him once or twice a week and talking on the phone evenings when he's not on call or post-call just hasn't felt like enough lately. I really miss him and have been thinking about moving in together. The hitch: we're not quite ready for marriage. I'm sold on kids, want to have at least one. Not now, but after his chief residency year. He knows he doesn't want kids now, but can't say whether he will in the future. It's been rough hanging in with the uncertainty of his response. Has anybody encountered anything like this?
We cycle through some really good months, but then there will be a rough rotation that keeps him too busy to see me often enough for my tastes and I grow increasingly insecure. We talk, he reassures me that his answer isn't no, he eventually starts a less demanding service and I feel better... for a few months...
He's worth the wait, but I am not the most patient person in the world. I want to cope without making myself and him miserable in the process.
Any pearls of wisdom?
-DB
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