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Hello! I am new to this and my situation is a little different from most of yours! My boyfriend of over 6 years has recently been accepted to medical school (Emory, Wash U, Duke) and is currently deciding where he wants to go. We will both graduate from undergrad in May, myself with a psych. degree. I recently applied to clinical PhD programs in psych and realized just hot competitive it is! SOOOOOOO since my ultimate career goal is to teach I will hopefully enroll in a teaching program next semester.

I guess my reason for joining this forum was to see exactly what it's like for those of us with loved ones in medical school. I'm very frightened about next year...as I will be moving to a city where I know NO one except him.

SOOOOOOOOO...I'm totally open to hearing anyone's experience with loved one's in medical school and what effect it had on your relationship/life/etc.

Thanks so much!

[Meenah]

Welcome. The medical field will affect your life in many ways. If you can be openminded, maintain your own life, expect very little from your loved one, be happy for what you do get, you will be fine!!!! Not to sound jaded but it is hard, and I didn't go through the education process with my DH. I look forward to getting to know you.
Luanne

[spotty_dog]

Oh, hey! I think I've just posted to you on SDN. Welcome!

hey alison! yeah, you have! glad to know you are on here too!

[DCJenn]

Welcome!

there are quite a few M0s (what we call you guys who haven't started yet) so post away!

Jenn

[Auspicious]

Hi,

I first started posting here when my then-boyfriend was just starting med school, too. It was extremely helpful in helping me develop realistic expectations, which for me personally is essential.

For us first year was the hardest and then each year got better after that. Others have different experiences. We're happily married now, though, so it obviously didn't destroy us. There have been tough times, but really we have many many happy memories of the past four years.

Looking forward to hearing more from you!

hey julie! that's great that you guys are now married! do you mind me asking when you got married (was it while he was in medical school?) it's so good to know this forum has been beneficial to you! i'm hoping my experience is positive too!

[Auspicious]

We got engaged in January of MS2 and then got married during "spring break" of MS3 (really just a two-week break between rotations) on May 14.

[planet]

Nice job finding this site early in the process! I really wish I had known about it during the med school years.

Welcome!

i'm glad i did find this website early on! my S.O. is addicted to student doctor.net and i noticed they have a thread for spouses/partners on there and i stumbled upon this one! thanks for the welcome

[houseelf]

Welcome and good luck!

Kelly

[cylverdust]

new

I also found this website through sdn. My dh(dear honey) loves the sdn site too. I think this site is a godsend. I would not have known what to expect of my life for the next many years if not for this site.

I am an the fiance of an MS0, we are getting married next month to have some adjustment period before med school. I will admit I am scared of what it will bring.

If there are any spouses from the Touro med school in Vallejo I would love the change to get to know and also find out if there is a support group there. I have the feeling I am gonna need it.

Cheryl