Hi!

[along]

Hi all!

I am a spouse of an almost third year med student. (He starts M-3 in July) My husband and I are probably some of the few "older" med students/spouses - 10+ older (gulp!) We have a dynamic 3 year old toddler boy who keeps me busy when I am not at work as an fellowship administrator at the med school.

I was looking to find others in a similar circumstance and it sounds like I have come to the right place!

[Flynn]

Welcome! Yep, this site has it all!



Tell us more about you when you can.

What is your doc hoping to go into?

[along]

Thanks for the welcome!

Right now my doc is really leaning towards EM. He's had some experience with it and likes the variety of EM. Plus from what I hear, it is one of the more family friendly residencies/specialties.

I have a question to all of you who have been able to be SAHMs. How do afford to do it? And for those of you who work full time, have children and a spouse in residency, how do you keep your sanity? I want to quit working, but financially I can't imagine being able to make it on what they provide for student loans alone.

[Vanquisher]

I have a question to all of you who have been able to be SAHMs. How do afford to do it? I want to quit working, but financially I can't imagine being able to make it on what they provide for student loans alone.

First, welcome!

Ummm, DEBT, consumer debt, private loans, etc., etc. You're still not going to be living large either. I also used federal aid programs like Medicaid and WIC - during medical school. I will be able to pay all of that back and then some with my taxes, so I don't feel guilty about it. It's what we had to do during med school.

I also picked up part-time jobs here and there, babysat, did some valet parking. Right now I am doing medical transcription from home. Mostly though, the DEBT, enormous amounts of monopoly money. We also got bailed out by our parents occasionally.

[planet]

How to do SAH during residency?

It is hard to do. Have a plan.


Welcome A! (edited for manners )

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[samssugarmomma]

I want to quit working, but financially I can't imagine being able to make it on what they provide for student loans alone.

That is the question that we have yet to answer!! Every month I crunch our budget to see how we could afford for me to stop working and not have our house foreclosed on and not accrue a scary amount of credit card debt.....and I have yet to figure it out!

As far as working full time during residency and keeping your sanity....I am wondering how to do that too!! I think that our saving grace will be that we will be living in the same city as some of our family. We have been living hundreds of miles from the closest family member and it has been so hard to work full time and be a mom and be all alone and have no backup for me. I honestly don't know how others do it! Thankfully, I have a very understanding boss!

[along]

Thankfully since he's an attending at the med school - I also have a boss definitely understands. I just have those moments of vulnerablility(like I am sure you all do) when I feel like I can't take it anymore but knowing that others have similar challenges has already given me some strength and ideas of how to handle future challenges, like residency! Thanks!