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    Thread Locking

    Okay - I'm going out on a limb here - but this has really been bugging me all day.

    I'm not a fan of the thread locking. It feels like my mommy took my t.v. away or spanked me or something. We're all *usually* pretty reasonable and pass for adults on a daily basis.

    I understand when a thread becomes abusive or agressive it needs to be closed, but when one member is just not ... handling it well ... or going a little over the top, I feel like it could be adressed in a behind-the-scenes PM or the like. In yesterday's scenario no one was baiting or slamming for flaming or anything. Or even a post from an admin asking everyone to keep an "even keel" -- rather than sending us to our virtual rooms.

    Any takers??
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    I just figured it was because it was morphing into something else more suitable for the debate forum than the parenting forum...just MHO.

    I like the way they handled the little black dress & the shoes thread...kudos for that creative solution

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    • #3
      I'm also not a fan. I wanted to reply to the post yesterday, but couldn't state my opinion because it was locked. The conversation can become one-sided that way and dropped depending on who was online. I feel that maybe it could have been moved to the debate forum or something.
      Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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      • #4
        Originally posted by pinkpickles
        I just figured it was because it was morphing into something else more suitable for the debate forum than the parenting forum...just MHO.

        I like the way they handled the little black dress & the shoes thread...kudos for that creative solution

        So I guess I'm going to run around looking for that thread now! Who knew a fight could break out over a little black dress? Well, maybe I understand shoes - but a dress?
        Who uses a machete to cut through red tape
        With fingernails that shine like justice
        And a voice that is dark like tinted glass

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        • #5
          Annie -- you are getting addicted to these movie photos. Don't stop!

          TR -- no fight over the black dress. I just separated the shoes chitchat from the dress discussion. (Heidi's what to wear little black dress thread and shoes fabulous shoes).

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          • #6
            Originally posted by cupcake
            Annie -- you are getting addicted to these movie photos. Don't stop!

            TR -- no fight over the black dress. I just separated the shoes chitchat from the dress discussion. (Heidi's what to wear little black dress thread and shoes fabulous shoes).
            Who uses a machete to cut through red tape
            With fingernails that shine like justice
            And a voice that is dark like tinted glass

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            • #7
              Re: Thread locking.

              The admins have been back and forth on the issue of how to keep things from spiraling out of control. For a long time, we didn't really...moderate the forums...but...things do, unfortunately sometimes turn into nastiness here and we got called to the carpet by a number of members who felt like we weren't doing our...ummm...jobs. (and since we're so well paid, we really felt we needed to step up to the plate :> )

              It may be overkill right now, but we're trying to figure out the best way to keep things from taking a "you suck and so does the horse you rode in on" tone that *ahem* has happened around here on a couple of occasions and still let freedom ring.

              Basically, closing a thread means....stop...think it through and re-start it differently if you want. It's not meant to be a form of ... online parenting...God knows we're busy enough with our real parenting jobs....and...I guess that brings it to the point. In the last year, as membership has grown and we have had a lot of diverse opinions expressed there have been times where we all were hit with PMs about people upset or hurt who are 1. leaving 2. never coming back 3. hate us and eveything we stand for and 4. feel frightfully offended.

              I hate to say it, but...I prefer locking a thread to wading through the PMs. Obviously, I care a lot when people get hurt....but sometimes it gets a little out-of-hand or overwhelming.

              There have only been a couple of threads locked since we started this....so it isn't like threads are being locked left and right...

              We're in a lose-lose situation...if we let things go....people are justifiably hurt and wonder why we haven't taken action (and btw, there are plenty of behind-the-scenes warnings that have gone out too over the years ) If we lock a thread to just stop the current direction, people are upset and feel censored or disciplined.


              It's just...sometimes we don't have time to be really creative in our solutions and we just opt to lock before disaster strikes.


              kris
              ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
              ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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              • #8
                I have to say that I was a little put off by the shoes discussion. It was the Birkenstock, granola-munching earth moms vs. Ugg/Weitzman-wearers. I didn't like the comment about shoes saying a lot about the wearer, because I don't think that's true. Don't we try to teach our daughters that outer appearance doesn't reflect inner beauty? Or are shoes another excluded from this? :>
                married to an anesthesia attending

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by alison
                  I have to say that I was a little put off by the shoes discussion. It was the Birkenstock, granola-munching earth moms vs. Ugg/Weitzman-wearers. I didn't like the comment about shoes saying a lot about the wearer, because I don't think that's true. Don't we try to teach our daughters that outer appearance doesn't reflect inner beauty? Or are shoes another excluded from this? :>
                  Bummer...I miss all of the exciting threads.
                  ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
                  ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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                  • #10
                    What Kris said.

                    Sorry that my prior post was just to laugh at Annie.

                    Seriously, we want to be sensitive to things getting out of hand. This might take some tweaking. The tread locking seemed like a quick and effective way to re-direct.

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                    • #11
                      Besides- we really are getting overwhelmed with porn. I swear to god- we conference every morning about which porn sites we've each deleted.

                      I think it's one person out to get me.

                      Jenn

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                      • #12
                        Hmm...well, sounds like the shoe chitchat was more than just chitchat.

                        While we are clearing the air -- I have enough common sense to realize that my husband can use his medical training for networking and he is not blithely turning down friend and family for requests of medical advice. Generally speaking, he likes to be helpful. It's the crazies (which can include friends and family :> ) that don't get as much help and rightly so.

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                        • #13
                          , Nellie.

                          I think it's really interesting to find out what rubs people the wrong way.
                          We're only human.
                          married to an anesthesia attending

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by DCJenn
                            Besides- we really are getting overwhelmed with porn. I swear to god- we conference every morning about which porn sites we've each deleted.
                            Keep the personal problems personal Jenn. I have noticed an abundance of porn "members". What a PITA.

                            Yes. Annie's post made me feel bad for posting/complaining. I guess since I'm not one of the usual "whine / they hurt my feelings" via PM to admins, that side of it didn't really occur to me. (I'm more of a "You said WHAT to me??" kinda girl, which will in turn get me locked. )

                            Alison - were you really offended by the shoe discussion?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Genivieve
                              Alison - were you really offended by the shoe discussion?
                              I wasn't offended; some of the comments rubbed me the wrong way, that's all.


                              I know, I know - I'm being silly!!
                              married to an anesthesia attending

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