Elliot Spitzer's wife..

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I'll have to see if I can find it. There is a quote from an interview w/ Silda Spitzer in Vogue about her thoughts on leaving her career balanced with the kind of family life she wanted to have.

[peggyfromwastate]

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SHe must be just feeling awful, not to mention the kids, with the hooker's face plastered all over the media now. Her face, full name, picture of her in a bikini... A 22 year old... I would be devastated.

[Rapunzel]

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Spitzer's wife standing up there with him was just...painful...to watch.

Honestly, I don't care if she's staying with him after this or not - but how embarrassing for her! I cannot fathom being put through that kind of torture - to have the world looking at YOU as your husband explains away on television why he is sleeping with a younger, thinner, prettier woman. That is the very definition of "doormat".

It was sooo hard for me to watch that jerk during his news conference because his wife was standing there blank-faced through the entire event. Painful, embarrassing....

I guess the only thing that could have been worse would be if they guy put his daughters up there as well.

EDITED to add: I think a suitable thing would be for her to have gone up there with him and, after his stupid, embarrassing press conference, introduce the press to her hot, hunky new love interest (Sven?). Now THAT would be payback!

[Meenah]

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EDITED to add: I think a suitable thing would be for her to have gone up there with him and, after his stupid, embarrassing press conference, introduce the press to her hot, hunky new love interest (Sven?). Now THAT would be payback!

Oh Jenn, that is funny.

I also barely lookd at him, I couldn't take my eyes off of her. My heart ached for her.

[Sheherezade]

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ITA with Jennifer. Seriously, why do we expect the wife to stand up there "in support" (and total humiliation) but not the daughters? They're family too, right? If it is about standing by your family and the people you love, then why let them off the hook? I think it is because we DO realize it is painful and humiliating to the family and it isn't their fault. Honestly, I'd respect him SO MUCH MORE if he spared his wife this painful political tradition. He did it. Let him announce it alone. If they want to kiss and make up afterward, that's fine with me. I know marriage is complicated and people make big monsterous mistakes....but jeez. Making the wife stand by you for political reasons (and photo ops) shows a serious lack of compassion for his loved ones and the distress he has caused by his actions.

[alison]

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I mentioned this somewhere else, but....

the press is leaving her alone!!! By making an appearance, the press is not interested in getting an interview, photo of her (crying), etc. etc.

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the press is leaving her alone!!! By making an appearance, the press is not interested in getting an interview, photo of her (crying), etc. etc.

We don't know that the press is leaving her alone. I doubt they are. She's probably holed up inside her house w/the paps sitting outside. If she were out and about, you can bet they'd be snapping pics of her and reading into what she's buying, wearing, etc.

[alison]

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Ok, then let me just say that now that I've seen her, I'm not interested in pictures/statements from her.

It would be like the magazine that gets the 2nd picture of Angelina Jolie's new baby.

[GrayMatterWife]

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There has been a lot of commentary in the press over Mrs. Spitzer's decision to, literally, stand by her man. Criticizing her; deifying her; conjecturing about her motives or state of mind.

Maybe the focus is on the wrong person. Maybe the question should not be, Why would she do that? Maybe the question should be, Why didn't he do the protective, noble thing and say at the press conference, as he stood on the podium alone something along the lines of this?:

"I am so grateful for my wife's incredible love and support through this. She does not deserve what my actions have brought, and I will not subject her to enduring her pain in public, on this podium. So I stand here, alone, to take responsibility for actions that I, alone, committed and for which I, alone, must now take responsibility. My deepest wish is just that it would be I, alone, who will bear the pain and repercussions that will follow from my actions. But that is not the case. My actions have consequences on everyone I love, most especially on my wife and my three precious daughters. As I leave this office, my first commitment is to seek and earn their forgiveness and rebuild our life together."

As$hole. The answer is not to trot your wife out, so that she can look shellshock and traumatized in front of the world--even if she was willing to do that, in the name of looking supportive. It's called...being a man of character.

[GrayMatterWife]

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Someone asked if there had been any female politicians taken down by similar issues and other than Chenoweth (R-ID), no one could think of any other (except Catherine the Great and needless to say, she didn't have to resign).

Interestingly, though, Catherine the Great wasn't destroyed by the rumors. She died in power.

But I'm not saying tat Catherine got off easy. I mean, no matter how bad Spitzer's acts were, history probably won't include allegations of his bestiality with a horse.

[Vishenka69]

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Maybe the focus is on the wrong person. Maybe the question should not be, Why would she do that? Maybe the question should be, Why didn't he do the protective, noble thing and say at the press conference, as he stood on the podium alone something along the lines of this?:

"I am so grateful for my wife's incredible love and support through this. She does not deserve what my actions have brought, and I will not subject her to enduring her pain in public, on this podium. So I stand here, alone, to take responsibility for actions that I, alone, committed and for which I, alone, must now take responsibility. My deepest wish is just that it would be I, alone, who will bear the pain and repercussions that will follow from my actions. But that is not the case. My actions have consequences on everyone I love, most especially on my wife and my three precious daughters. As I leave this office, my first commitment is to seek and earn their forgiveness and rebuild our life together."

As$hole. The answer is not to trot your wife out, so that she can look shellshock and traumatized in front of the world--even if she was willing to do that, in the name of looking supportive. It's called...being a man of character.

Has there ever been a male politician in this situation who actually took such course of action?

[GrayMatterWife]

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Maybe the focus is on the wrong person. Maybe the question should not be, Why would she do that? Maybe the question should be, Why didn't he do the protective, noble thing and say at the press conference, as he stood on the podium alone something along the lines of this?:

"I am so grateful for my wife's incredible love and support through this. She does not deserve what my actions have brought, and I will not subject her to enduring her pain in public, on this podium. So I stand here, alone, to take responsibility for actions that I, alone, committed and for which I, alone, must now take responsibility. My deepest wish is just that it would be I, alone, who will bear the pain and repercussions that will follow from my actions. But that is not the case. My actions have consequences on everyone I love, most especially on my wife and my three precious daughters. As I leave this office, my first commitment is to seek and earn their forgiveness and rebuild our life together."

As$hole. The answer is not to trot your wife out, so that she can look shellshock and traumatized in front of the world--even if she was willing to do that, in the name of looking supportive. It's called...being a man of character.

Has there ever been a male politician in this situation who actually took such course of action?

Not that I can think of. Doesn't mean that someone hasn't done this, of course. Maybe a history major can recall better.

[Rapunzel]

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There has been a lot of commentary in the press over Mrs. Spitzer's decision to, literally, stand by her man. Criticizing her; deifying her; conjecturing about her motives or state of mind.

Maybe the focus is on the wrong person. Maybe the question should not be, Why would she do that? Maybe the question should be, Why didn't he do the protective, noble thing and say at the press conference, as he stood on the podium alone something along the lines of this?:

"I am so grateful for my wife's incredible love and support through this. She does not deserve what my actions have brought, and I will not subject her to enduring her pain in public, on this podium. So I stand here, alone, to take responsibility for actions that I, alone, committed and for which I, alone, must now take responsibility. My deepest wish is just that it would be I, alone, who will bear the pain and repercussions that will follow from my actions. But that is not the case. My actions have consequences on everyone I love, most especially on my wife and my three precious daughters. As I leave this office, my first commitment is to seek and earn their forgiveness and rebuild our life together."

As$hole. The answer is not to trot your wife out, so that she can look shellshock and traumatized in front of the world--even if she was willing to do that, in the name of looking supportive. It's called...being a man of character.

DH read this over my shoulder last night and said you are completely on-point with the above commentary, Abigail. He really liked your post.

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the press is leaving her alone!!! By making an appearance, the press is not interested in getting an interview, photo of her (crying), etc. etc.

We don't know that the press is leaving her alone. I doubt they are. She's probably holed up inside her house w/the paps sitting outside. If she were out and about, you can bet they'd be snapping pics of her and reading into what she's buying, wearing, etc.

saw this in an article today and it reminded me of this thread:

It certainly has not been easy. With photographers camped outside the family's Fifth Avenue high-rise in the wake of Spitzer's apology and then resignation Wednesday, the couple remained in their apartment last week as their three daughters, Elyssa, Sarabeth and Jenna continued to attend classes at an elite private school in New York City.

http://www.people.com/people/article/0, ... pheadlines

[alison]

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I'm not convinced they're out there waiting for her (specifically). People Magazine - isn't that a celebrity magazine too?