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  • Pregnancy Pact

    http://www.time.com/time/world/article/ ... 45,00.html

    Holy shit batman.


    As summer vacation begins, 17 girls at Gloucester High School are expecting babies—more than four times the number of pregnancies the 1,200-student school had last year. Some adults dismissed the statistic as a blip. Others blamed hit movies like Juno and Knocked Up for glamorizing young unwed mothers. But principal Joseph Sullivan knows at least part of the reason there's been such a spike in teen pregnancies in this Massachusetts fishing town. School officials started looking into the matter as early as October after an unusual number of girls began filing into the school clinic to find out if they were pregnant. By May, several students had returned multiple times to get pregnancy tests, and on hearing the results, "some girls seemed more upset when they weren't pregnant than when they were," Sullivan says. All it took was a few simple questions before nearly half the expecting students, none older than 16, confessed to making a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together. Then the story got worse. "We found out one of the fathers is a 24-year-old homeless guy," the principal says, shaking his head.

    The question of what to do next has divided this fiercely Catholic enclave. Even with national data showing a 3% rise in teen pregnancies in 2006—the first increase in 15 years—Gloucester isn't sure it wants to provide easier access to birth control. In any case, many residents worry that the problem goes much deeper. The past decade has been difficult for this mostly white, mostly blue-collar city (pop. 30,000). In Gloucester, perched on scenic Cape Ann, the economy has always depended on a strong fishing industry. But in recent years, such jobs have all but disappeared overseas, and with them much of the community's wherewithal. "Families are broken," says school superintendent Christopher Farmer. "Many of our young people are growing up directionless."

    The girls who made the pregnancy pact—some of whom, according to Sullivan, reacted to the news that they were expecting with high fives and plans for baby showers—declined to be interviewed. So did their parents. But Amanda Ireland, who graduated from Gloucester High on June 8, thinks she knows why these girls wanted to get pregnant. Ireland, 18, gave birth her freshman year and says some of her now pregnant schoolmates regularly approached her in the hall, remarking how lucky she was to have a baby. "They're so excited to finally have someone to love them unconditionally," Ireland says. "I try to explain it's hard to feel loved when an infant is screaming to be fed at 3 a.m."

    The high school has done perhaps too good a job of embracing young mothers. Sex-ed classes end freshman year at Gloucester, where teen parents are encouraged to take their children to a free on-site day-care center. Strollers mingle seamlessly in school hallways among cheerleaders and junior ROTC. "We're proud to help the mothers stay in school," says Sue Todd, CEO of Pathways for Children, which runs the day-care center.

    But by May, after nurse practitioner Kim Daly had administered some 150 pregnancy tests at Gloucester High's student clinic, she and the clinic's medical director, Dr. Brian Orr, a local pediatrician, began to advocate prescribing contraceptives regardless of parental consent, a practice at about 15 public high schools in Massachusetts. Currently Gloucester teens must travel about 20 miles (30 km) to reach the nearest women's health clinic; younger girls have to get a ride or take the train and walk. But the notion of a school handing out birth control pills has met with hostility. Says Mayor Carolyn Kirk: "Dr. Orr and Ms. Daly have no right to decide this for our children." The pair resigned in protest on May 30.

    Gloucester's elected school committee plans to vote later this summer on whether to provide contraceptives. But that won't do much to solve the issue of teens wanting to get pregnant. Says rising junior Kacia Lowe, who is a classmate of the pactmakers': "No one's offered them a better option." And better options may be a tall order in a city so uncertain of its future.
    Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.



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    Re: Pregnancy Pact

    I know this in the Debates forum, and sometimes I take the obvious oppositional point of view just to have fun and see what thoughts we can get on the table, but...

    FWIW, I 100% agree with your dead-on assessment, Heidi. No debate from me on this one!

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    • #3
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      The author if this story and another girl (older, accidental pregnancy) were on the Today show this morning. The girl was talking about how much these girls don't realize their lives are going to change after the baby is born. Where are these kids parents?
      Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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      • #4
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        that is just insane.

        passing out b/c won't help these girls if their goal is to get pregnant. perhaps a "reality show" of the Glouster 17 and their REAL lives after having these babies will help the NEXT batch.

        i'm not at all opposed to b/c being available - i'm glad it was to me. but i was smart enough that i knew to AVOID getting pregnant.

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        • #5
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          How sad that these girls feel so unloved. I agree that birth control needs to be available to them, but if they're trying to get pregnant, that won't solve the problem. The town really needs to look at the younger kids and work on self esteem building and outlets to build meaningful relationships for these poor kids. This is just so sad.
          -Deb
          Wife to EP, just trying to keep up with my FOUR busy kids!

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          • #6
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            A 24 year old homeless guy? Eeks. I agree with all of the above. The only other thought I have about this is how deceitful to the fathers -- it takes two to tango and this is a consequence of their decisions but...yikes, I'm assuming they weren't in on the pact.

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            • #7
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              24? I'm sure nobody thought about the chances of him going to jail for having sex with 16 year olds. But it sounds like they weren't doing much thinking at all.

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              • #8
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                Age of consent is 16 in Massachusetts, I believe.
                Married to a hematopathologist seven years out of training.
                Raising three girls, 11, 9, and 2.

                “That was the thing about the world: it wasn't that things were harder than you thought they were going to be, it was that they were hard in ways that you didn't expect.”
                Lev Grossman, The Magician King

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                • #9
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                  24? I'm sure nobody thought about the chances of him going to jail for having sex with 16 year olds.
                  To me, it speaks to the magical thinking of the girls and their distrust of any boys they "knew". That is, they picked the homeless dude because they didn't trust any boys they knew (as they distrusted their own fathers). In their magical thinking, they could do it all alone (and with their female friends and the spanking new school childcare center). They purposely wanted to avoid any entanglements with any males who were real people to them.

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                  • #10
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                    I wonder if the "24 yo homeless guy" was really just someone they kinda knew from a friend of a friend...someone who went to the highschool and now is technically homeless but really just chooses to live couch-to-couch or in his car because he's a starving artist-type free spirit....not necessarily the father I'd pick for my children....but maybe not as sketchy as a wino on the streets....
                    Mom of 3, Veterinarian

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                    • #11
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                      Originally posted by Auspicious
                      Age of consent is 16 in Massachusetts, I believe.
                      Say it isn't so!

                      Actually, in general there's quite a bit of acceptance of teen pregnancy around here.

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                      • #12
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                        Originally posted by Michele
                        I wonder if the "24 yo homeless guy" was really just someone they kinda knew from a friend of a friend...someone who went to the highschool and now is technically homeless but really just chooses to live couch-to-couch or in his car because he's a starving artist-type free spirit....not necessarily the father I'd pick for my children....but maybe not as sketchy as a wino on the streets....
                        That's what I assumed, too. "Homeless guy" just sounds more sensational I think.
                        Alison

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                        • #13
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                          Good point -- probably homeless on technicality.

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                          • #14
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                            Words can't express what I think of this whole situation...
                            Danielle
                            Wife of a sexy Radiologist and mom to TWO adorable little boys!

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