And as far as what is "normal," we've experienced two completely different types of environments. I don't drop in to DH's workplace now. It would seem odd there. I haven't met several of his current colleagues. A few have been to our house for dinner, but most of them are just people I know from his stories.
In residency, there were spouses & kids in the "resident library" all the time. Spouses would bring dinner up for everyone on call. Yes, they were busy - the pager would go off and they'd have to leave. But without that dinner table in the call room, there was no time or place to see them at all. It made life seem bearable, and it was nice to get to know some of the other spouses there. Approve of it or not, it was normal for there.
It is obvious from everyone's posts that there is a great variety of working environments (and yes, there are some business, even productive ones, where spouses are frequently seen). It doesn't seem fair to compare spouses from different places.
As bad as insecurity is for a relationship, if someone has an affair, it can't be blamed on an "insecure spouse." It is the fault of the spouse who had the affair. I'm guessing that having lunch with coworkers of the opposite sex is perfectly fine in your marriage (and probably for others here), but it isn't ok in ours. DH & I agree on it, and it doesn't make me a "clingy" or "insecure" wife. If anyone outside our marriage doesn't respect this, DH will be sure they do, because that is his responsibility.
Well put.
In residency, there were spouses & kids in the "resident library" all the time. Spouses would bring dinner up for everyone on call. Yes, they were busy - the pager would go off and they'd have to leave. But without that dinner table in the call room, there was no time or place to see them at all. It made life seem bearable, and it was nice to get to know some of the other spouses there. Approve of it or not, it was normal for there.
It is obvious from everyone's posts that there is a great variety of working environments (and yes, there are some business, even productive ones, where spouses are frequently seen). It doesn't seem fair to compare spouses from different places.
Originally posted by LilySayWhat
Originally posted by houseelf
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