Your teenage girl's love life

[v-girl]

Makes me glad my daughters are so busy with dance they don't have time to meet boys. Whew!

[Pollyanna]

Makes me glad my daughters are so busy with dance they don't have time to meet boys. Whew!

Amen to that!!! When mom's with young children talk about only letting their children do minimal after-school activities I always tell them that they will WANT them to be busy every day once they start getting older .

[BonBon]

Amen to that!!! When mom's with young children talk about only letting their children do minimal after-school activities I always tell them that they will WANT them to be busy every day once they start getting older .

I never thought about that aspect of after school activities. Frankly, all this wants to me cover my ears (eyes...) and sing lalalalalala....
I'm very scared of what middle school will bring.

And that mom taking those pictures is just...creepy weird gross. I think my attitude would be "get your hand off my daughter's ass before I break it." Not taking pictures.

[Chrisada]

That's a good point Pollyanna and V! Keep them busy! I had way too much time for my loser boyfriend in HS.

[poky]

I think some moms get a thrill out of living through their daughters. They want their daughters to be pretty, popular, have a boyfriend, be cheer captain and prom queen and have the picture-perfect high school experience and they think those things will make their daughters happy. They don't know how hard that is for girls. It's juvenile. Personally, I'm hoping my kids are nerds in high school. They will have plenty of time to socialize after graduation. Any chance we can invest in serious orthodontics/head gear for K1 when he hits middle school? He was holding hands with a 3yo blonde on the playground today.

Hee! That reminded me of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFhgupR565Q

[MrsK]

LOL I love it!

[ladymoreta]

I love The Guild!!!

[PrincessFiona]

What Sally said...and I am the mom who hates these other moms. I want to constantly scream "wtf are you thinking??!!!" I also have a friend with a 17 yr old daughter who is l xy but testosterone insensitive. She can't get pregnant of course, so mom is letting her spend the night at the bots house for prom. She said "she can't get pregnant" to me. I feel like an old fuddy duddy. Mrs. FuddyDuddy to my kids' friends.

[MrsK]

^
As if pregnancy is the worst thing that can happen to kids these days.

[alison]

This thread is scaring me! My dh is the level-headed one around here, and I'm sincerely hoping that my friends are correct in their belief that "M is so challenging now, and this HAS to mean that she'll be a breeze in her teenage years."

Many parents in Germany allow their teenage kids to have sleepovers at their boyfriends' houses. My dh still says that he wouldn't have been able to get a girl to sleep with him even if he tried.

I can see why my host parents allowed this--their explanation was: better in my house than in a car or parking lot or in a motel. Still, I'm just not able wrap my head around it though I lean in the direction of my daughter being able to tell and ask me anything. And if she wants to have sex, then she's going to find a way. *shudder*

[Ladybug]

I'll never get the "better at my house" argument (sex, drinking, drugs, whatever). It's the same risk outcomes, but now you've taken on all the legal liability and other parents judgement/anger as well. Leave them in the backseat or parking lot.

[moonlight]

I don't think any of the those parents that allow the kids to do everything illegal at their house had any better outcome with their kids. DH has a relative with a BUM of a 25 yr old daughter for this exact reason. Poor kid started out at a international baccalaureate high school programs and a college scholarship. Now she is barely gets by, hasn't worked in years, can't get our of college, and still is doing everything safely under the roof of her mother's house. It's really shaped the way I think about parenting a teen someday. Praying my kid can stay strong when she's a teen.

[samssugarmomma]

Creepy! I wonder what the boys parents think of the behavior and photos or if they even know. I don't have boys but I can't imagine that I'd want photos of him posing like that on the internet. And what about the girls dad? I can't imagine my husband seeing some guy paw one of our daughters and not go postal!

Seems like she is trying to be the girls friend instead of her parent. I see this all the time at the skating rink - even moms with boys. They seem to be just a little too close to their friends. It wierds me out.

[diggitydot]

And what about the girls dad? I can't imagine my husband seeing some guy paw one of our daughters and not go postal!

Word. DH loses his shit when DD1 is simply near her boyfriend. If they were actually touching each other, poor little BF would be missing limbs. Several limbs.

[peggyfromwastate]

Yuck. That is all.