Porno

[Vanquisher]

Good dirty fun or bad news?

I'm kinda worried about the ads this discussion might generate. Oh well.


Heidi

[Vanquisher]

Oh, and I like it. Bow chicka wow wow.

I know. You're all shocked.


Heidi

[MsSassyBaskets]

Has debates been re-branded? Fun fun. As for the topic at hand... I have surprisingly little opinion about porn. As long as nobody's being exploited (ie, children, sex trafficking, etc.), and all partners in a relationship are comfortable with what's being viewed, to each his or her own.

[Vanquisher]

Has debates been re-branded? Fun fun. As for the topic at hand... I have surprisingly little opinion about porn. As long as nobody's being exploited (ie, children, sex trafficking, etc.), and all partners in a relationship are comfortable with what's being viewed, to each his or her own.

Yup, rebranded.

And, I agree. Consenting, legal, adults. Cool beans.


Heidi

[spaz]

I guess I am very much against it. I feel like it rewires your brain as to what to expect. Plus, it exploits the people in it... Most of them feel like they do not have a choice. It makes good money and it helps support the drug habit their pimps and such have gotten them into. Sexual exploitation is a very big problem and I want to help rescue women from it not contribute to it...

I'm sorry Vanquisher, but that is how I feel... I really worry about the women since I've heard so many testimonies from ladies involved in Strip Clubs and the pornography business. I'm working with an organization right now that is turning an old nursing home into a shelter for these women and getting them retrained into jobs so they can support themselves, plus get away from their "handlers.."

Sorry.... It is just the way I feel....

[Vanquisher]

Porn and prostitution are different. But, I'm for legalizing prostitution too. Your body, your choice, and safer.


Heidi

[PrincessFiona]

Porn isn't my thing ... but that's just because it really never turned me on. I haven't researched much about the porn industry and whether or not there are abuses of women occurring. To me, it is also each to their own ... as long as it is consenting adults and no one is being hurt, why not.


Prostitution? I would legalize it too, Heidi. Then the health department could jump in and make sure things were cleaner/safer.


spaz, your dissenting opinion is welcome! I love reading the other point of view. It makes me think!

Kris

[MsSassyBaskets]

I guess I am very much against it. I feel like it rewires your brain as to what to expect.

I will say, I think that when young men (ok, and women too but mostly men, especially teenage boys) watch too much porn it can warp their expectations around real-life sexual behavior, and that is a problem. But I think that's the place for parents to talk to teenagers about respect in relationships and perhaps try to prevent porn watching too young. If everyone is educated on the fact that porn is NOT real life, that real relationships require communication, respect, and mutual pleasure, those issues will not be so bad. And that's why I don't like puritanical parenting, because it fails to address intimate issues that kids will face as they mature in the real world. But that's a whole other topic.

[HouseofWool]

I will say, I think that when young men (ok, and women too but mostly men, especially teenage boys) watch too much porn it can warp their expectations around real-life sexual behavior, and that is a problem.

I have a dear friend who broke off a relationship with a guy who was great in other aspects because he had proclivities that were obviously form by watching excessive amounts of porn. The acts made her uncomfortable as a regular part of intimacy (she didn't rule them out completely). But he stated that it was a deal breaker for him if she didn't allow him to do what he wanted.

[Thirteen]

Porno

It's not welcome in our relationship, but I'm not condemning those who choose to watch. As a consenting, legal adult, you have the right to determine your own comfort levels within your relationship.
(My view is based on mutual discussion with my spouse and a faith-based ideal).
I wouldn't say it's due to being prudish.


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[DrBandMe]

I know that DH reads erotica and I'm absolutely okay with it. He isn't into actual videos all that often but even that doesn't bother me. He doesn't hide it from me and often times invites me to be a part.

I also agree with legalizing prostitution. I have a good friend who is a sex worker and I think the legalization would really help clean some aspects up.

[spaz]

I will just share what I have learned so that perhaps you might reconsider the notion of consenting adults.... The story I've heard from survivors of sexual trafficking ( strip clubs, prostitution, pornography) goes something like this. They are a young teenage girl. Their home life is atrocious. Many times their mom has remarried and the stepfather is abusive, sometimes sexually. So they run away. They go into a McDonalds to grab something to eat. The predator is waiting and knows how these girls look. He buys them a hamburger and is concerned and asks about their lives. He offers them a place to sleep. Many times the first day or two, he doesn't ask anything. He finds all about her family. She feels like for the first time someone actually cares about her. Then depending on the type of trafikking, he brings in a guy and tells her to "satisfy" him or she makes a movie or whatever. She tries to refuse, but he tells her that he knows where she lives and if she refuses or tells he will go to that elementary school and find her brother and harm him or harm her mom, etc. So she does it. Then she is damaged goods in her mind. Who is going to want her? Sometimes they get them hooked on drugs. Sometimes they get them pregnant and use their child against them.

The lady I am working with felt dead inside as she was dancing for money. She wrote this book: http://www.amazon.com/Sold-Highest-B.../dp/1475106963

She is opening a shelter to work with ladies in this lifestyle. Many ladies feel completely trapped. They are not consenting. They just have no idea how to get out of the lifestyle. I just do see how this "doesn't hurt anyone." These poor girls are so vulnerable and don't have a great self-esteem anyway. This just makes it worse...

Ok, so that is my point of view. I realize not everyone has it... But I will do everything I can to rescue these poor girls...

[Ladybug]

I don't think any prostitute or porn star is reaching the fullness of their human potential. I certainly wouldn't want either career for my children, and I would work hard to help them reach further. Anything less would be indifference, for them or any other human being.

[SoonerTexan]

Honestly I don't understand how porn can exist with exploitation on some level. That pretty much sums of my view.

[spaz]

Honestly I don't understand how porn can exist with exploitation on some level. That pretty much sums of my view.

Did you mean without? So you think it CAN or CANNOT exist without exploitation.