Interesting read on "having it all" from a medical spouse

[Sheherezade]

http://www.theatlantic.com/features/...me-dad/384289/

Discuss.


Angie

[poky]

I like it! The idea of not being able to have it all AT ONCE is important, and it's good to hear that it might be getting easier, slowly, to have it all, but at different times, if that's what you want.

[gem]

Great article. It's encouraging to me to see professional men deeply committed to work-life balance. It shouldn't be just a "women's issue." I kind of laughed though at the end when he mentioned telling potential employers that his wife's career will always be the more demanding and that he intends to continue to prioritize time with his child. It's totally true for me as well, but if I ever actually said this to my employer, I kind of see my pay being cut on the spot. I suppose a SCOTUS clerkship affords one the luxury of transparency. He probably would have still been hired even if he forgot pants and wore an astronaut helmet.

[diggitydot]

Great article. It's encouraging to me to see professional men deeply committed to work-life balance. It shouldn't be just a "women's issue." I kind of laughed though at the end when he mentioned telling potential employers that his wife's career will always be the more demanding and that he intends to continue to prioritize time with his child. It's totally true for me as well, but if I ever actually said this to my employer, I kind of see my pay being cut on the spot. I suppose a SCOTUS clerkship affords one the luxury of transparency. He probably would have still been hired even if he forgot pants and wore an astronaut helmet.

Hahahaaaa!

[alotofyarn]

Thanks for sharing - I really enjoyed this!

[oceanchild]

I thought it was good, too. I greatly respect his reverence for staying home with his child. I don't like it very much, personally.

[Meenah]

Good article. As a product of the 70's, my reaction is not to the having it all part, but to the choices that we have. I have seen a lot of changes and progress, but back then I'm sure I thought that by 2015 a man choosing to stay home would be no different than a woman making the same choice.

[Ladybug]

He's a beautiful writer. I definitely see a book in his future.

[ladymoreta]

That was a great article!

[bobk]

I can relate to a lot of it. I've been a SAHD for all three kids and have no regrets. Luckily I've had part-time work that has allowed me to maintain skills and earn enough to get us through training without taking on debt. It's been a pretty good balance. I've thought a few times about returning full-time, but I just don't think it would be worth it.

[LynnAlicia]

Thanks for sharing.

I wonder what Sheryl Sandberg would say?!

[Sheherezade]

Thanks for sharing.

I wonder what Sheryl Sandberg would say?!

I'm so tired of leaning in, and I only just started! I can't imagine sustaining the leaning in approach for decades with kids and a medical spouse.


Angie

[LynnAlicia]

I'm so tired of leaning in, and I only just started! I can't imagine sustaining the leaning in approach for decades with kids and a medical spouse.


Angie

RIGHT?! It's a good read because she presents very different ideas than I have. I just can't get past the fact that her and husband are in the top .5% so that's nice they can hire out everything.