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Should the Runaway Bride be charged?

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  • Should the Runaway Bride be charged?

    Charges not ruled out for runaway bride
    Source contradicts account of spontaneous cross-country trip
    Monday, May 2, 2005 Posted: 9:14 AM EDT (1314 GMT)



    ATLANTA, Georgia (CNN) -- A suburban Atlanta prosecutor said Sunday he would be less likely to bring charges against runaway bride Jennifer Wilbanks if authorities determine she left spontaneously rather than planning her disappearance.

    "If she just freaked out and split, I'd be less inclined to hold her criminally responsible than if it were a deceptive plan all along," Gwinnett County District Attorney Danny Porter told CNN.

    But a source briefed on the status of the investigation said Wilbanks had bought her cross-country bus ticket several days before she disappeared, and had also made advance arrangements for a ride to the bus station.

    That account clashes with what the FBI said the 32-year-old medical assistant told investigators after she surfaced late Friday in Albuquerque, New Mexico.

    Wilbanks was scheduled to get married Saturday in front of 600 guests. She told investigators in Albuquerque that she embarked on her trip without a plan, leaving on "the spur of the moment" with $140 to $150, FBI spokesman Bill Elwell said Saturday.

    The stress of the wedding had gotten to her, and after the marathon runner went jogging Tuesday evening near her house in Duluth, Georgia, she took a taxi to a Greyhound bus station, where she boarded a bus to Las Vegas, Nevada, Elwell said.

    "She admitted she did cut her hair on her own," he said. "She did not want anyone to recognize her. She had some idea people were looking for her."

    A one-way bus ticket to Las Vegas from the Atlanta area costs about $170 -- more than investigators said she told them she was carrying at the time. The source briefed on the investigation said Wilbanks cut her hair Tuesday.

    After a night in Las Vegas, she befriended a Hispanic man and a white woman -- Wilbanks told investigators -- and the three took a bus to Albuquerque.

    Police in New Mexico and Georgia said no criminal charges were pending, but Porter said Saturday that no decisions would be made before Monday.

    Last year, a Wisconsin college student who faked her abduction was sentenced to probation and ordered to reimburse police. (Full story)

    Wilbanks had been scheduled to marry John Mason, 32, in a swank ceremony with 14 bridesmaids and 14 groomsmen.

    She returned to Atlanta late Saturday, handing a statement for reporters to a flight attendant shortly before landing. (Full story)

    "She has spoken to her fiance," the statement read. "He cannot wait to see her. She says the wedding is not called off, just postponed."

    Wilbanks wore a brightly colored fabric over her head to hide her face as she exited the aircraft.

    Wilbanks initially told police in New Mexico she had been kidnapped, but she told them after questioning that she had fled voluntarily because she "needed some time alone" before the wedding, police said.

    Police located Wilbanks by tracing a telephone call she made to Mason to a convenience store.

    Wilbanks also made an emergency call to Albuquerque police. During that call, an apparently upset Wilbanks reported she had been kidnapped.

    But it took only a few hours of questioning for authorities to learn that Wilbanks left on her own.

    Duluth residents, including some of the 150 volunteers who had helped search for Wilbanks, had a mixed reaction to her return.

    "We were all disappointed, maybe a little embarrassed," said the Rev. Alan Jones, who was to have performed the wedding. (More hometown reaction)

    Sunday morning, a near-capacity crowd packed into Riverbend Baptist Church in Gainesville, Georgia -- home of Wilbanks' mother and stepfather -- and heard the Biblical parable of the prodigal son from interim Pastor Ken Allen.

    When the story ended, the congregation of about 400 burst into applause.

    CNN's Charles Molineaux, Peter Viles and Rich Phillips contributed to this report.
    ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
    ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

  • #2
    What is up with this stuff? Isn't this the second or third person to do this in the last couple of years? She apparently cut her hair so that she wouldn't be recognized while she was traveling and bought her bus ticket a week in advance.

    Even if this were a case of 'freaking out' I just can't imagine that she didn't turn on the news and see that everyone else was 'freaking out' and call home immediately to say "mom, I just took off and am fine". She let other people worry and then lied about it.

    I think she should serve time in a psych facility at minimum....

    Good Grief...and if she's so 'nervous' about getting married then she shouldn't. The poor boyfriend!!!!

    kris
    ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
    ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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    • #3
      I think it would be reasonable for her to pay for some -- or all -- of the costs associated with looking for her.

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      • #4
        The ONLY way I'd say, "Don't charge her," is if she starts claiming that she ran away and tried to stay incognito and then claimed the whole fake kidnapping thing was due to an abusive situation with the fiance or something like that.

        Otherwise, the woman outright lied to authorities with the kidnapping allegation and she needs to be charged for that. If a person calls in a false report via 911 they get a fine at the minimum don't they? Well, she definitely called in a false report (of her own kidnapping) and that deserves some sort of legal retribution I would think.

        Jennifer
        Who uses a machete to cut through red tape
        With fingernails that shine like justice
        And a voice that is dark like tinted glass

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        • #5
          I agree with everything that's been said. Choices have consequences.

          If she/her family can afford to have 600 guests at a wedding, they can pay for her lying to the police. I also think she should be charged if she just "freaked out" and there is no abuse...other circumstances to her situation.

          You wanna leave? FINE -- but don't lie about it to cover your %^$. That's just SO WRONG.
          Flynn

          Wife to post training CT surgeon; mother of three kids ages 17, 15, and 11.

          “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” —Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets " Albus Dumbledore

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          • #6
            I think her situation is a little different than the WI case from last year but I do agree that she should make at least a financial payment to cover all the overtime, etc. that the GA stations incured because of her mess. People just don't think sometimes.
            Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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            • #7
              I agree with what everyone has said. You have full rights to bail out of your wedding, but for heaven's sake, tell your mother!
              Heidi, PA-S1 - wife to an orthopaedic surgeon, mom to Ryan, 17, and Alexia, 11.


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              • #8
                Yep, I agree. I keep thinking about what she put her poor family and fiance through--they had to be thinking she was dead in a shallow grave somewhere. She wasted the cities resources for over 4 days while she was spending time alone and she should pay for it!
                Awake is the new sleep!

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                • #9
                  I put in my vote that she should pay for it!!! She bought a ticket on April 19. And called for a cab to pick her up at the library. She must have brought along scissors to cut her hair.

                  I can't believe that she didn't come forward sooner. She MUST have seen the news somewhere. How could you see your mother like that and not even call?! :disappointed:

                  I was sympathic initially, but the more I read about it...

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                  • #10
                    I agree with everyone else and hope this girl gets the help she needs.

                    However, (here's an interesting wrinkle) do you all think that the money the media has made off this case (it has been the lead story several places that I've seen, several days running) should be somehow "garnished" as well?

                    When she disappeared, that was news. When she was found, that was news. The rest of it.....the conjecture, the armchair soundbyte analysis, the interviews of close friends.....is NOT news, yet there it all is, day after day.

                    There are many people who disappear who scarcely merit a blip on the media's radar, for whatever reason. I heard that there were two other pregnant women that disappeared around the same time and in the same area as Lacey Peterson, yet where was their publicity?

                    I guess what I am asking is, if the media hadn't chosen to hype this situation, would we all feel the same?

                    Sally
                    Wife of an OB/Gyn, mom to three boys, middle school choir teacher.

                    "I don't know when Dad will be home."

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                    • #11
                      Sally,

                      You raise some good points. One thing that I noticed is that you hardly ever see a black (african american) missing child on the news...and you certainly don't hear about the ones that come from poor families that happen...all of the time. All we hear about are these high profile cases where the people have a lot of money.

                      I heard the same thing during the Laci Peterson case.

                      I simply can't understand what this person hoped to gain, and I hope that she has to do some community service work with people who have experienced these kinds of tragedies...either children or adults who have survived this kind of ordeal and lived or the parents of childrens/adults who have died. The same goes for freaky Wisconsin chic.

                      I feel really sorry for the fiancee who basically was the suspect. He had to take a lie detector test and was under pressure to take another one...I would be really surprised if he marries her.
                      ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
                      ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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                      • #12
                        You know, you really don't see a missing non-Anglo child/adult in the news very much (if at all). I have noticed that. And, it does seem like the ones that are really focused on by the media are either of a more wealthy background and/or have incredibly photogenic faces. I guess it's because of ratings. I think it's pretty obvious by now that all news organizations are more interested in bringing home the bacon rather than their professional integrity.

                        Should the media pony up any money for the police/FBI investigation? No. It's a business in the end and media outlets are allowed to bring in a profit. They didn't lie about the woman - she did it for them. What annoys me is that now we see endless days of coverage on what is now a non-story. It's just stupid and if they are really getting good ratings off of the coverage of what has turned into just a very small anthill worth of news then that actually says quite a bit about the American public consuming this media circus. This case has no impact on anything important in the ethical, political, or social arena and it just needs to disappear.

                        What bothers me about the woman that did this (the "runaway bride" as she has been catchily termed by the media ) is that she has in some ways trivialized all the other women that legitimately go missing. While she was "finding herself" or some other crap there are hundreds, if not thousands of women in the U.S. who really are vanished and need to be found - dead or alive. I don't know if the woman is unhinged but until I hear she has a true mental illness all I can ascribe her actions to are complete and utter selfishness. And, if she does start screaming "mental illness" in response to charges filed against her I am honestly going to be very suspicious of that. There are some incredibly selfish, manipulative people in the world and right now she seems to fit that description beautifully.

                        Jennifer
                        Who uses a machete to cut through red tape
                        With fingernails that shine like justice
                        And a voice that is dark like tinted glass

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                        • #13
                          I agree with the previous posts. I felt sorry for her in the beginning, but those feelings have passed since she still has not made an apology for all of the trouble she caused...not to mention that she has repeatedly lied to police. She keeps saying that she had no idea that a search party would be sent out for her.....well then, if she never expected anyone to go out looking for her, why would she feel a need to disguise herself by cutting her hair? I wonder how much longer her fiance will stick by her side....

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                          • #14
                            The finace is now saying he still wants to marry her (she'd left the ring behind and now he's given it back).

                            I agree w/the previous posts about her needing to make restitution for it SOMEHOW, 'cause the expense is crazy.

                            I'm guessing there are some people who will be wanting their gifts back, too -- not to mention the 14 bridesmaids / groomsmen (on each side) who shelled out dough to be in the darn thing. If she bought the ticket the week before, she could have at least saved everyone the travel!

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                            • #15
                              I do think it's pretty unjust that it only seems "newsworthy" if its somebody white or from an upper class background. The only black missing child in our area that was extensively reported was when they found a beheaded black child--if it hadn't been so grisly and tragic I doubt it would have ever made national news. To this day (that was probably 3-4 years ago) they still don't know who that poor child was.
                              Regarding the runaway bride, I have a very hard time believing that she didn't realize people were looking for her! She definitely needs to make a public apology--she's got some 'splainin to do.
                              Awake is the new sleep!

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