I think I see your perspective a bit, Annie. My mom and I just recently had a conversation on this regarding her brother's years of chemo. He ended up in the hospital a few weeks ago almost dead - not from the cancer but from the treatment of the cancer. If his cancer wasn't going to kill him his "cure" sure would!
So, he kept going through this cycle of remissions and every time it was getting worse. The chemotherapy was working just enough to keep him from dying while his oncologist was insisting to him and his wife he could be "cured". My mom had a hard time talking to them about the reality of the situation. They did not make any funeral plans in advance - none - because the oncologist drilled it into them that he would "beat" this. My aunt has very bad multiple sclerosis and he had been taking care of her. They made NO arrangements for her care. Why? Because his oncologist insisted he would outlive her (she's definitely got a good decade in her I think). Soooooo, he lived on for many months in agony from the chemotherapy that would fix him. He died a couple of weeks ago.
I don't have a problem with chemotherapy. Definitely not. It does work for a number of people. But, my uncle really wasn't given realistic expectations considering his condition (baaad - two different types of cancer at once with one of them being leukemia). In the end, when it looked like it would be a matter of days, my mom called my cousin (her brother's son) and had him make sure my uncle was getting good pain management. She instructed him on what to say to his care providers. I'm not sure if he understood what she was telling him (in fact, I doubt he understood or he probably wouldn't have said it) but she basically instructed him to tell the nurses to keep upping the morphine - indefinitely until the pain stopped - period. His organs were all shutting down anyway one at a time. Such a painful way to die.
Incidentally, my mom has developed this anger towards oncologists lately. It's purely emotional. Heaven knows she'd go to one in a heartbeat if she was found to have breast cancer!
But, I see the complications to the issue and I soooo do not envy oncologists their job!
So, I do have a problem with someone finding out "Oh, I have breast cancer" and immediately running out to figure out how to off themselves. But, I have no problem in easing the pain of a person who is in incredible suffering. And, if that pain management hastens that person's already immediately impending death I'm OK with that. I have a problem with euthenasia - but not with pain management if that makes sense. (And, yes, I'm OK with medical marijuana - but that's a tangent and the gonja ain't gonna kill you
).
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Jennifer

So, he kept going through this cycle of remissions and every time it was getting worse. The chemotherapy was working just enough to keep him from dying while his oncologist was insisting to him and his wife he could be "cured". My mom had a hard time talking to them about the reality of the situation. They did not make any funeral plans in advance - none - because the oncologist drilled it into them that he would "beat" this. My aunt has very bad multiple sclerosis and he had been taking care of her. They made NO arrangements for her care. Why? Because his oncologist insisted he would outlive her (she's definitely got a good decade in her I think). Soooooo, he lived on for many months in agony from the chemotherapy that would fix him. He died a couple of weeks ago.
I don't have a problem with chemotherapy. Definitely not. It does work for a number of people. But, my uncle really wasn't given realistic expectations considering his condition (baaad - two different types of cancer at once with one of them being leukemia). In the end, when it looked like it would be a matter of days, my mom called my cousin (her brother's son) and had him make sure my uncle was getting good pain management. She instructed him on what to say to his care providers. I'm not sure if he understood what she was telling him (in fact, I doubt he understood or he probably wouldn't have said it) but she basically instructed him to tell the nurses to keep upping the morphine - indefinitely until the pain stopped - period. His organs were all shutting down anyway one at a time. Such a painful way to die.
Incidentally, my mom has developed this anger towards oncologists lately. It's purely emotional. Heaven knows she'd go to one in a heartbeat if she was found to have breast cancer!

So, I do have a problem with someone finding out "Oh, I have breast cancer" and immediately running out to figure out how to off themselves. But, I have no problem in easing the pain of a person who is in incredible suffering. And, if that pain management hastens that person's already immediately impending death I'm OK with that. I have a problem with euthenasia - but not with pain management if that makes sense. (And, yes, I'm OK with medical marijuana - but that's a tangent and the gonja ain't gonna kill you

Well, we've completely taken this thread away from the animals now!


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