I don't know if insecure is the right word, but I feel like whatever I'm doing seems insignificant compared to whatever he's doing during his work day. I have never wanted to go into medicine but there are times when whatever I accomplished sounds kind of dumb compared to saving lives, especially since I haven't quite figured out what the future holds for me. Does anyone else feel that way sometimes?
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Feeling a little insecure
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I guess I never really think of things that way, or maybe I don't compare myself (we are not at all similar). I never had any desire to go into medicine - the whole thing totally grosses me out and I never really excelled in science, ha!
Along with my recent rejection letters came three amazingly nice holiday cards from patients gushing about how wonderful he was and how they wouldn't be alive this holiday season if it wasn't for him - I will admit that at that moment I felt slightly inadequate... but whatever, I was probably more annoyed that he actually does something all day and at the moment things aren't going so well for me in the career department... moving on!
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I should probably say that I don't feel like that all the time, but there are moments when I think hmm...JDAZ, that's how I feel! Michele, I think I would but you know, a lot of these feelings tend to arise when we haven't seen each other in a while and it's been weeks:/
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Originally posted by cedarsnow View PostI should probably say that I don't feel like that all the time, but there are moments when I think hmm...JDAZ, that's how I feel! Michele, I think I would but you know, a lot of these feelings tend to arise when we haven't seen each other in a while and it's been weeks:/
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Yes, I have felt this way on occasion. Especially when I waited tables all through his 4th year of med school, so our "how was your day?" stories were a little unbalanced. The only time I was ever able to "one-up" him was the day I waited on Eli Manning .
But I don't let it get to me. Everyone, in every job, has value. There is absolutely no way doctors could do their jobs without the people who make and repair medical devices; the people who answer the phones and make patient appointments; the people who handle the insurance billing; the people who cook lunch in the hospital cafeteria; the people who take out the trash at the hospital; the people who change patient's bedsheets; the people who service the elevators in the hospital. All of those people are helping save lives too, it's just more indirect. And in a lot of cases (like many here), there's no way they could do their job without their spouse's support. We really do think of ourselves as a team. He may be the one directly taking care of patients, but I do a lot to take care of him so that he can take better care of his patients.
Oh yeah, and never, in all of my career flip-flopping, have I ever had any desire to be a doctor. Ever. No way. Those people are crazyWife of a surgical fellow; Mom to a busy toddler girl and 5 furballs (2 cats, 3 dogs)
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Originally posted by GrayMatterWife View PostI have a friend who is an artist, married to a trauma surgeon.
When asked this question, she said, "Medicine saves lives. Art makes life worth living. Everyone has value."
I'm not sure it will work for me (few people feel lawyers make life worth living, lol). But maybe for my next career!
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Originally posted by GrayMatterWife View PostI have a friend who is an artist, married to a trauma surgeon.
When asked this question, she said, "Medicine saves lives. Art makes life worth living. Everyone has value."Wife of a surgical fellow; Mom to a busy toddler girl and 5 furballs (2 cats, 3 dogs)
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Just remember our hubby's wouldn't be where they are without us! Just keep this in mind when you are starting to feel this way. You are just as much of a part of the lives he is saving because you helped him get to where he can do this, although indirectly.High school sweetheart and wife to an MS4 cutie, and mom to pretty baby J, silly Siamese kitty, crazy Weim, and funny ferret.
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Originally posted by GrayMatterWife View PostI have a friend who is an artist, married to a trauma surgeon.
When asked this question, she said, "Medicine saves lives. Art makes life worth living. Everyone has value."Needs
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I constantly remind myself that he is replaceable in his job (there are others who can do his work, even though surgeons forget that sometimes) but I'm pretty much the only person who can do what I do. There's only so much of my day to day I could outsource.
Anyway that's what I like to tell myself when I feel pathetic!!
Of course right now I'm basking in the glow of 3-year old love every day. 3 year old is my age I think-- and dd loves to tell me she loves me, she gives me kisses, she draws little pictures, etc etc.Peggy
Aloha from paradise! And the other side of training!
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Thank you ladies! And I love that quote about the artist and her trauma surgeon husband! It'll be more than a month since we've seen each other and that's due to our conflicting schedules. We have a semi-long distance relationship right now but I'm hoping that once this rotation is over, we can see each other at least once a month. The funny thing is, he hates talking about work and he feels like he's boring so I guess the grass is greener sometimes. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that we'll get to spend part of the holidays together.
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