Happiness and emotional stability as a medical spouse come from having a busy fulfilling life aside from your relationship. That said, my career is very important to me. I need daily challenges and pressure to get my fiance's career out of my head. So when I got laid off from my job a month ago, my life changed. I told myself I would be ok not working and just being a stay at home fiance. I told myself it was ok if I let my workout routine go a little. LOL. Yea right. Now I'm at rock bottom. I'm at the same place I was about 6 months into PGY 1 when I realised we wouldn't be able to have a honeymoon after our wedding because it's 'not available' until 2 months later. It's the same feeling I had when I realised if he left for work during an argument, it might not be resolved for a week. I'm so scared. I'm scared of loosing my independence; I'm scared that if dinner doesn't come out right, he's not going to be happy then I didn't meet my goal for the day. I'm turning into a mouse hiding in the corner afraid to talk because what if I say the wrong thing? Is this normal? Well, I'm right back there. And I'm freaking out. I'm re-panicing. I can do this. I can do this. I can get my own life again, because I did it before. But it's different this time. I'm 2 years older now, and I know more than I did then. I'm different now. I want different things. Back then I just wanted my own career. Easy. Done. This time I want a purpose for my own life. Then everything else will fall into place around it, including my career. Now that's a lot of pressure
What's your purpose in life? I do want to just stay home, but how is it possible to find happiness here, all alone? How can I learn to deal with disappointment for those weekends when all our plans are cancelled because he got called in? What is my work if I stay home? Volunteer? I have no kids, I have no family support because I'm afraid to tell them I got laid off. In our matriarchal family, my mother and grandma will try to step in and pressure me with their opinions. I need to make sure this is my decision alone.
What's your purpose in life? I do want to just stay home, but how is it possible to find happiness here, all alone? How can I learn to deal with disappointment for those weekends when all our plans are cancelled because he got called in? What is my work if I stay home? Volunteer? I have no kids, I have no family support because I'm afraid to tell them I got laid off. In our matriarchal family, my mother and grandma will try to step in and pressure me with their opinions. I need to make sure this is my decision alone.
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