Should I take the job?

[Ravenclaw]

I'd accept, but that is just me. I do have a track record of too readily accepting job offers.

If you are going to be working, that sounds like a good place to do it given that people have been there for a fair amount of time and are happy. Could you break the time off in to two trips to see your sister? Two long weekends -- maybe longer with a holiday? (Since you said fall, I thought Labor Day might be in there). Would they be willing to let you do a 4 day work week for an extra day off as well?

[Ravenclaw]

I could probably go for a few long weekends but it's like a 12 hr trip...no direct flights to Cali from here and we're on the East Coast.
I just asked them for a few extra days off; if they agree I think I'll say yes.
I've had a hard time finding a job down here! God I wish we didn't need the $!!

If they were will to negotiate on the salary, I think that asking for more vacation time is worth a try. Maybe you could get credit for the first quarter of this year or something.

Good luck. Let us know what you decide.

[Meenah]

I agree with Nellie. Everything is negotiable (except the IRS). Accept the job on the condition that you can take your already planned trip!
Luanne

I just remembered -- I had to ask for extra vacation time for a job. I ended up taking part of the time as unpaid leave. It was no problem (ha, except not getting paid for a week!).

[Ravenclaw]

Just wanted to let youk now what I decided - I said yes. I couldn't say no to the $ especially since I had no other prospects.
On the same topic, my DH is so casual about all of my job issues...his answer to anything job-related for me is "do whatever you want." I guess that's a good thing but I wish he would actually give me some thoughtful advice!
Are your spouses the same way?

[Auspicious]

On the same topic, my DH is so casual about all of my job issues...his answer to anything job-related for me is "do whatever you want." I guess that's a good thing but I wish he would actually give me some thoughtful advice!
Are your spouses the same way?

Yeah, mine's not so good with the thoughtful career advice, either. I wouldn't say he's casual about it--he tries, but he only worked in corporate america for two years before going to grad school, and entry-level job issues just aren't the same as mid-career job issues. I've taken it as a lesson in "You can't expect your spouse to fulfill every single last one of your needs, you have to have other people in your life, too." I always ask my parents for career and job advice and insight, as they are both definite veterans of Workin' for Da Man.

[SuzySunshine]

Mine is the same way, especially with jobs because he doesn't understand what I do. I had a job offer to decide between in November and he actually told me to call his best friend about it b/c we're in the same industry and he figured he was a better sounding board.

Congrats on the new job, I hope you're happy with it!

[Auspicious]

Yes, congratulations!

[Ravenclaw]

Mine is the same way, especially with jobs because he doesn't understand what I do. I had a job offer to decide between in November and he actually told me to call his best friend about it b/c we're in the same industry and he figured he was a better sounding board.

Congrats on the new job, I hope you're happy with it!

Thanks! I hope I like it too. Although I wish I would figure out what I want to be when I "grow up." I always envy pple that know exactly the right career for them.

Yeah I think it's the same thing with my husband. He's never had a corporate job so he just doesn't get it. Thankfully I have a great network of family and friends that I can get advice from.

[SuzySunshine]

I don't know what I want to be when I grow up either, I'm hoping being a mom fulfills some of what I feel is missing but that's not coming easy either so we'll see.

Do we have to grow up?

I don't know what I want to be when I grow up either, I'm hoping being a mom fulfills some of what I feel is missing but that's not coming easy either so we'll see.

Do we have to grow up?

Exactly! In my better, calmer moments about this, I realize that I will probably try several different things rather than be in the same line of work. That has sort of happened already.

Congrats, Leyla!