Wedding Attire

[Vishenka69]

Off the top of my head I'd say AT for cardigan and Target for shawl.

[madeintaiwan]

Stella, where did you get no red at a wedding? I've never heard that. Women wear red to weddings in NY all the time. Is it a Southern thing?

I have heard that you shouldn't wear red bc it is a stand out color and might take attention from the bride. But being half Chinese, red is a very lucky color and most guests usually wear red to weddings to bring the couple good luck. I would wear red.

[Stella]

you shouldn't wear red bc it is a stand out color and might take attention from the bride.

Old fashioned etiquette a la Miss Manners. Probably not followed everywhere but something I have followed.

[Vishenka69]

you shouldn't wear red bc it is a stand out color and might take attention from the bride.

Old fashioned etiquette a la Miss Manners. Probably not followed everywhere but something I have followed.

Several friends wore red to my wedding and I never even thought to think twice about their dress color. I figure that as the only one in a big pouffy dress with a tiara, no red dress can possibly outshine me. Selfcentered, moi?

[DCJenn]

The only thing I've ever heard was no one should wear white (unless specifically instructed to by the bride) and less bare is better.

I went to a wedding once that the bride asked everyone to wear pink. It was pretty funny. (She was 4 months pregnant and her wedding gown was pink) It was a small to-do so no one was the least bit offended- it was all taken in stride.

Jenn

[Stella]

There´s no rule for guests proper wedding attire, but you should still proceed with caution. If it´s a subtle red and a fairly informal dress, it would be fine with nude hose for a daytime wedding. If the dress is fire-engine red and rather slinky, it wouldn´t be proper for either a day or evening wedding. If you´re going to an evening wedding and you have a dark red, tasteful ´dressy´ dress that isn´t flashy, it´s up to you. You don´t want to steal the bride´s thunder---ask yourself, "Would it be awkward if I were wearing this and standing next to the bride?" Where you live might also be taken into consideration; in a large city, no one would bat an eye if you wore red to a formal evening wedding, but in a smaller town or suburb, it could be viewed as a fashion faux pas. If you want to be perfectly safe, find another dress.

I, personally, think that red is too loud of a color to wear to a wedding, especially if you are an important part of the wedding such as the mother of the bride or groom. The wedding is for the bride and groom and all attention should be on them. Red is an attention-getting color and should only be worn when attention should be paid to the wearer.

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I'm not saying you can't, I'm just saying that it's what I know and I wouldn't do it. I also wouldn't wear black (unless it was with another color) even though that is considered okay now! Go ahead, call me old fashioned.

[Vishenka69]

in a large city, no one would bat an eye if you wore red to a formal evening wedding, but in a smaller town or suburb, it could be viewed as a fashion faux pas. If you want to be perfectly safe, find another dress.

I've lived in a large city all my life, which explains my reaction. Does this also mean I need to tone it down once we move?

Confession. At DH's cousin's wedding, I wore a very bright dress on purpose. The photographers loved it and my dress clearly pops on all the pictures.

[SuzySunshine]

Well the not wearing black I will never understand, everyone wears black to weddings these days and I've ordered both dresses in black. Of course I bought the dresses and then we found "cheap" airline tickets so now we're flying instead of driving so if they don't fit they're going back and I'll wear something I already have.

ETA: I think the black thing comes from "black is for funerals" I don't think that holds true anymore either, yes people wear dark colors to funerals but its not all black anymore.

Well the not wearing black I will never understand, everyone wears black to weddings these days and I've ordered both dresses in black.

I think you'll look great in black! We just received a wedding invitation requesting that all the female guests wear either red or black. I would have preferred it if everyone wore black to our wedding because it would have looked much better in the pictures.

[alison]

If you are in the market for bridesmaids, please consider letting them pick out black dresses of any cut of their choosing. Most everyone feels good in black, will be able to find a use for the dress again, and will already have dressy black shoes to match!

I don't see a problem with black nor red. :huh:

[Flynn]

in a large city, no one would bat an eye if you wore red to a formal evening wedding, but in a smaller town or suburb, it could be viewed as a fashion faux pas. If you want to be perfectly safe, find another dress.

I've lived in a large city all my life, which explains my reaction. Does this also mean I need to tone it down once we move?

Confession. At DH's cousin's wedding, I wore a very bright dress on purpose. The photographers loved it and my dress clearly pops on all the pictures.

I wore red to my best guy friend's wedding he married a "material girl" and back then we didn't see eye to eye. :P

Do you think it was too much to sing "Wild Thing" in my red dress with the band????????? (it was well after all the senior guests left!)