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  • Couple stand by forbidden love

    Couple stand by forbidden love
    By Tristana Moore
    BBC News, Berlin


    Patrick and Susan did not know each other as children
    Interview with couple

    At their home in Leipzig, Patrick Stuebing and Susan Karolewski are in the kitchen, playing with a young toddler.
    They share a small flat in an east German tower block on the outskirts of the city. It looks like an ordinary family scene, but Patrick is Susan's brother and they are lovers.

    "Many people see it as a crime, but we've done nothing wrong," said Patrick, an unemployed locksmith.

    "We are like normal lovers. We want to have a family. Our whole family broke apart when we were younger, and after that happened, Susan and I were brought closer together," he said.

    Patrick, who is 30 years old, was adopted and, as a child, he lived in Potsdam.

    He did not meet his mother and biological family until he was 23. He travelled to Leipzig with a friend in 2000, determined to make contact with his other relatives.



    This law is out of date and it breaches the couple's civil rights
    Lawyer Endrik Wilhelm

    He met his sister Susan for the first time, and according to the couple, after their mother died, they fell in love.
    "When I was younger, I didn't know that I had a brother. I met Patrick and I was so surprised," said Susan, who is 22.

    She says she does not feel guilty about their relationship.

    "I hope this law will be overturned," Susan said.

    "I just want to live with my family, and be left alone by the authorities and by the courts," she went on, in a hardly audible voice.

    Jail sentence

    Patrick and Susan have been living together for the last six years, and they now have four children.

    The authorities placed their first son, Eric, in the care of a foster family, and two other children were also placed in care.

    "Our children are with foster parents. We talk to them as often as possible, but the authorities have taken away so much from us," said Susan.

    "We only have our little daughter, Sofia, who is living with us," she said.


    Incest is a criminal offence in Germany. Patrick Stuebing has already served a two-year sentence for committing incest and there is another jail term looming if paragraph 173 of the legal code is not overturned.

    The couple's lawyer, Endrik Wilhelm, has lodged an appeal with Germany's highest judicial body, the federal Constitutional Court in Karlsruhe, in order to overturn the country's ban on incest.

    "Under Germany's criminal code, which dates back to 1871, it is a crime for close relatives to have sex and it's punishable by up to three years in prison. This law is out of date and it breaches the couple's civil rights," Dr Wilhelm said.

    "Why are disabled parents allowed to have children, or people with hereditary diseases or women over 40? No-one says that is a crime.

    "This couple are not harming anyone. It is discrimination. And besides, we must not forget that every child is so valuable," said Dr Wilhelm.


    We would like society to recognise us, as any other normal couple
    Patrick Stuebing

    The couple's case is controversial and it has prompted a heated debate in the media.

    "We need this law against incest in Germany and in the whole of Europe," said Professor Juergen Kunze, a geneticist at Berlin's Charite Hospital.

    "It is based on long traditions in Western societies, and the law is here for a good reason," said Prof Kunze.

    "Medical research has shown that there is a higher risk of genetic abnormalities when close relatives have a child together. When siblings have children, there is a 50% chance that the child will be disabled," he said.

    Patrick and Susan say they have no other choice but to fight the current law.

    "I have read that some doctors claim that children born to siblings could be disabled, but what about disabled parents who have children, or older parents?" asked Patrick.

    "People have said that our children are disabled, but that is wrong. They are not disabled," said Patrick.

    "Eric, our eldest child, has epilepsy, but he was born two months premature, he also has learning difficulties. Our other daughter, Sarah, has special needs," Patrick said.

    Ruling soon

    The couple claim they have received a lot of support from friends and neighbours.

    "When we go out to the supermarket, people recognise us and many have told us that they support our legal challenge," said Patrick.

    "We would like society to recognise us, as any other normal couple," he said.

    In 2004, Patrick voluntarily underwent a vasectomy.

    "It's legal for the couple to live together, and to share a bed. But they are breaking the law once they have sex. If there are no more children, then who will be able to prove that they are a couple?" asked their lawyer.

    Dr Wilhelm said a ruling was expected in the next few months.

    "We've already heard that the vice-president of the Constitutional Court said that there will be a 'fundamental discussion' about this issue in Germany," said Dr Wilhelm.

    "Many criminal law experts say that we are right and I'm confident that my clients will win their case. The law against incest is based on very old moral principles. The law was abolished in France, it's about time it should be scrapped here in Germany as well."

    Story from BBC NEWS:
    http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/2/hi/e ... 424937.stm

    Published: 2007/03/07 06:32:47 GMT

    © BBC MMVII

  • #2
    I saw the actual newscast where they interviewed the couple.
    Dh was not happy about the image the world must get about Germany when they see this. Although I'm sure it happens more often than not here too.
    married to an anesthesia attending

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    • #3
      I too just finished viewing their interview. I have read about this sort of thing happening where spereated siblings meet and fall in love later in life, but this is just a little off, because they knew, before they fell in love & had 4 kids!

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        • #5
          huh....not sure what I think or feel about this one. Have to ponder it a bit!

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          • #6
            :run:
            Gas, and 4 kids

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            • #7
              I'm of the opinion that people should be able to have consensual sex with whomever they like.

              However, with a risk of disability so high, I wish that this particular couple hadn't had children. That is a very heavy genetic inheritance to pass down, and I think the decision to procreate was short-sighted and selfish. And even putting that moral issue aside, when one, and then another, and another of their children were fostered out, what the hell were they thinking having yet another one?

              I guess some people just don't think.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by tenshi
                I'm of the opinion that people should be able to have consensual sex with whomever they like.

                However, with a risk of disability so high, I wish that this particular couple hadn't had children. That is a very heavy genetic inheritance to pass down, and I think the decision to procreate was short-sighted and selfish. And even putting that moral issue aside, when one, and then another, and another of their children were fostered out, what the hell were they thinking having yet another one?

                I guess some people just don't think.
                I read about this a few weeks ago.

                Yeah, very odd.

                But, one of the first thoughts that jumped into my mind is that Abraham (the patriarch of Judaism, Christianity AND Islam) practiced incest - his first wife was his neice (his brother's daughter)!

                sigh
                Who uses a machete to cut through red tape
                With fingernails that shine like justice
                And a voice that is dark like tinted glass

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                • #9
                  A little sick IMO.
                  Luanne
                  wife, mother, nurse practitioner

                  "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Luanne123
                    A little sick IMO.
                    It's a lot sick, IMO. I think it's reckless behavior to bring children into the world who undoubtedly have physical/mental/otherwise disabilities. Even if protection is used, it's not to say that it's 100% effective.

                    I feel it's ok to love a sibling, to want to be close to him or her forever (like this couple), but a romantic and sexual relationship is a different thing.
                    married to an anesthesia attending

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                    • #11
                      Ughh GROSSNESS. Where's the emoticon??

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                      • #12
                        maybe i'm just waaaay too liberal, but i have this mentality of "to each his own." unless someone is deliberately or directly harming another person, i don't pass judgement. i don't care what people do with their lives. i always think about other cultures too...we have a tendency to be ethnocentric. maybe other people look at our cultures and think we're weird! who's to say what is right or wrong. we're all entitled to our opinion, and so are they.

                        but i guess they are putting their unborn children at high risk. but so do "normal" couples who use drugs, smoke, and drink alcohol while pregnant.

                        hmm...

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                        • #13
                          There really is something wrong with a brother & sister having sex on many levels.
                          Luanne
                          wife, mother, nurse practitioner

                          "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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                          • #14
                            Are they half brother and sister or full? It seems that they have only a mother in common. Is she 22 now or when they got together? Did they hook up when she was 16 and started having kids right away??? And they're planning on another one while he's unemployed? Those things bother me a lot more than them being related.

                            It might be gross but I don't see any reason for him to serve a prison sentence and for their kids to be in foster care. They're not horrible parents. That part doesn't make sense.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Luanne123
                              There really is something wrong with a brother & sister having sex on many levels.
                              They didn't grow up as brother and sister though. The intimacy that stems from that relationship is more than genetic. I'd probably have more of a problem with an adoptive pair of siblings who grew up together, save the genetic concerns of the original couple.

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