Forgiveness on Talk of the Nation

Did anyone catch the forgiveness section on Talk of the Nation yesterday (1/2/08)?

It was very interesting and not always the idea of forgiveness that I had in mind. Timely for the new year (I'm sure that was on purpose).

Here is the link: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/stor ... d=17785209

I'm hoping to get time to listen to all of this tomorrow or over the weekend.

[Momo]

Re: Forgiveness on Talk of the Nation

Thanks for the link...sounds like something I might need to listen to!

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I don't think I got the the "alternative forgiveness" on the show but I did read something similar in the linked LA Times article (can't remember the woman's name now, psychotherapist in NYC). It seems to me that would have the same health effect because once you get to DTM, you aren't having the same physical or emotional reaction? I think it was the guy from Stanford who said that forgiveness doesn't have to be from a religious or ethical belief and can be motivated by benefit to oneself.

I have never liked the "forgive and forget" sort of model because I think that in a lot of cases, one can forgive or move on but to forget can set one up for more of the same or put one in harms way.

I liked the Stanford guy because he seemed less about seeing the trangressor in a warm and fuzzy place. He did make a good point about wrongs (IMO, outside of criminal and abuse situations, etc) often being more about the person doing it than than person wronged. Interesting.