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As I was mowing the grass yesterday, I was mulling over the things that I have learned in the 8 years of this ultra extravagent lifestyle I live being married to a dawkter:
1) If the yard needs to be mowed, just mow it yourself because the code compliance people will cite you before the dawkter gets it done.
2) If the house needs to be painted, figure out a time to do it when the dawkter is no where to be found, because otherwise they 'help'.
3) In selecting the colors for said painting project, pick what YOU like because the dawkter is too clueless to even notice.
4) Dont bother with decorating the bedroom, unless you're doing it for yourself. For the dawkter, it's just the place where sleep (and rarely, sex) happens.
5) If you don't know how to do the home maintenance that needs to be done, either hire someone or go get the book from the library.
6) Don't plan nice dinners on call days.
7) Always go separately to events that occur on call days.
8) Accept that you will have to attend social functions if the boss says so.
9) but also accept the fact that the dawkter will have to go to social functions and you will not be included. (which is good, because they're usually really boring)
10) the holiday party will more than likely suck.
11) It's OK to plan a vacation and even take the vacation if you really can't afford it. It's a downpayment on mental health.
12) It's OK to ask them to deal with the pager in whatever way makes life easier for YOU. It's not your job, after all.
13) It's OK to ask the dawkter, in fact to EXPECT the dawkter to pick up the slack for child management. It won't happen, but they need to feel the heat.
14) You will need your own activities that you enjoy, and you will need to do them. Even if it's one of the rare days that the dawkter is home. Don't sacrifice more than you already are.
15) Yes, all of the other parents will think you're a single parent. That's ok, maybe someone cute will flirt with you.
feel free to add more at your leisure.
Jenn
1) If the yard needs to be mowed, just mow it yourself because the code compliance people will cite you before the dawkter gets it done.
2) If the house needs to be painted, figure out a time to do it when the dawkter is no where to be found, because otherwise they 'help'.
3) In selecting the colors for said painting project, pick what YOU like because the dawkter is too clueless to even notice.
4) Dont bother with decorating the bedroom, unless you're doing it for yourself. For the dawkter, it's just the place where sleep (and rarely, sex) happens.
5) If you don't know how to do the home maintenance that needs to be done, either hire someone or go get the book from the library.
6) Don't plan nice dinners on call days.
7) Always go separately to events that occur on call days.
8) Accept that you will have to attend social functions if the boss says so.
9) but also accept the fact that the dawkter will have to go to social functions and you will not be included. (which is good, because they're usually really boring)
10) the holiday party will more than likely suck.
11) It's OK to plan a vacation and even take the vacation if you really can't afford it. It's a downpayment on mental health.
12) It's OK to ask them to deal with the pager in whatever way makes life easier for YOU. It's not your job, after all.
13) It's OK to ask the dawkter, in fact to EXPECT the dawkter to pick up the slack for child management. It won't happen, but they need to feel the heat.
14) You will need your own activities that you enjoy, and you will need to do them. Even if it's one of the rare days that the dawkter is home. Don't sacrifice more than you already are.
15) Yes, all of the other parents will think you're a single parent. That's ok, maybe someone cute will flirt with you.
feel free to add more at your leisure.
Jenn
... especially when you're frantically trying to get the house clean and the deep dish pizza (that HE requested for a guest HE wanted to have over) into the oven on time.
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