March 19th, 2009

[Thirteen]

Re: March 19th, 2009

So, sounds like one of his options has already filled the position. He thought there were 2 spots, but they made it sound like there's only one. They offered to still do match, but it would be in a PGY1 spot (what he's about to finish). That's one out of 4. He's a little sad. :/

Anyone else experiencing the downs? :anyolne:

[HouseofWool]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Yep, we are too. I cannot wait for this to be over.

[Bittersweet]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Sorry your latest development Wildfin!

I'm stressing and Dh is cool as a cucumber. Very typical and frustrating arrangement for us – my misery wants company, dang it!

[Thirteen]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Another way that Match interferes with life:

Due to not knowing where we'll be, and the fact that I am up to my eyeballs in classes trying to graduate/take Comp Exams in my specialty, we've decided not to pick a date for our wedding until we know what's going on and where we'll be.


Oh well, at least that's one less thing I have to be stressed about. :sweet:
Match and Graduation are stressful enough without relocation and a wedding prior.
:mydoc:

[Vishenka69]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Oh well, at least that's one less thing I have to be stressed about. :sweet:
Match and Graduation are stressful enough without relocation and a wedding prior.
:mydoc:

Couldn't agree more, we got married between match and graduation. Not knowing where we'll be after the match, I wanted to have the wedding before we move.

Our match experience wasn't very positive, so I'll restrain from depressing everyone.

Re: March 19th, 2009

Sorry your latest development Wildfin!

I'm stressing and Dh is cool as a cucumber. Very typical and frustrating arrangement for us – my misery wants company, dang it!

Same situation with my husband and me and I would looove just an ounce of company for my misery, once in a while He's laid-back and just happy interviews went well and are OVER. On his first one, he watched one of his fellow interviewees burst out of the door sobbing. From then on, the measurement of interview success: did you cry? No? Well, cool. Then I guess it went well enough.

I, on the other hand, want to know right now. I'm trying to be laid-back and, most of the time, am failing. I look at houses online way too much. I have a ridiculous spreadsheet of different school options for me, based on where we land. Pointless, really, but...it makes me feel better!

[MrsK]

Re: March 19th, 2009

He's laid-back and just happy interviews went well and are OVER. On his first one, he watched one of his fellow interviewees burst out of the door sobbing. From then on, the measurement of interview success: did you cry? No? Well, cool. Then I guess it went well enough.

Would you believe it? My brother cried during one of his residency interviews. He's normally very level-headed but the interview fell the day after our 93-year-old grandma passed away. We were all crazy about grandma. He'd been especially attentive to grandma and was involved in her day-to-day care up to the end. She was in very good health and my brother was already composing a letter to Willard Scott. But she passed very suddenly of a stroke while he was traveling for interviews. They asked him to describe some of the sacrafices he'd made for medical school and he just lost it. Believe it or not, he matched at that program and later became their chief resident.

[lastdefence]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Oh my god MrsK that brought tears to my eyes! I'm glad they were able to recognize a good man in your brother.

[Meenah]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Yep, tears here too.

[scarlett09]

Re: March 19th, 2009

That story also made get all emotional. ITA that the program realized what a wonderful caregiver your brother was and they held onto him. :mydoc:

Our rank list is in and now I am just waiting. Lately, I've been distracted by wedding planning, and it had been keeping my mind off the Match. Until last night...

I had a dream that it was Match Day. My future-in-laws and I were there, surrounded by the other med students and their families. They were handing out envelopes, and my other half was nowhere to be found. Just as we started to panic, he ran in from somewhere just in time to receive his envelope and open it in front of us.

The first thing I saw out of the envelope was something about Ohio. I started freaking out and crying because Ohio was NOT on the Match list and I felt like it was far, far away and somewhere I did not want to go. (No offense to anyone who lives there.) Apparently a match in Ohio was a false alarm. It was actually an advertisement for a dentist's office. In Ohio. Totally weird.

Then, the official Match was underneath that. A really small community in Maine. Maine was also NOT on the Match list. I started crying hysterically, the MS4 was not much comfort to me. I was curled up in a ball on the floor, telling everyone who came near that I had no idea where that town in Maine was. And that I did not want to go there (which is funny because I really want to visit there sometime soon). Luckily it was at this point that I woke up as the other half left for the hospital at 5 AM.

The other half thinks it might be a sign that he will have to scramble. I think he's just delusional from the lack of sleep this week.

So now the Match is back on my mind. Yipee.

I hope everyone else is surviving the calm before the storm, if you will.

[MrsK]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Oh my god MrsK that brought tears to my eyes! I'm glad they were able to recognize a good man in your brother.

My brother really is a good man. Prior to the interview incident, we were worred that my brother was so formal and awkward in his interviews. Having been a very commited student (sort of a nerd to be honest), he was very linear in his thinking and had difficulties relating to people and seeing the grey areas. I think they were really lucky to see him let his guard down and I think that his residency (and his wife and his children) really enhanced his nurturing side. He's really grown up to be a very solid, responsible, compassionate man and I am so proud of him.

Also, at least in part, I think married DrK because of the ways he reminds me of my brother. He's a big jock but DrK always wears his heart on his sleeve and when I met him I was struck when I saw my brother's compassionate nature in DrK.

[Thirteen]

Re: March 19th, 2009

That story also made get all emotional. ITA that the program realized what a wonderful caregiver your brother was and they held onto him. :mydoc:

Our rank list is in and now I am just waiting. Lately, I've been distracted by wedding planning, and it had been keeping my mind off the Match. Until last night...

I had a dream that it was Match Day. My future-in-laws and I were there, surrounded by the other med students and their families. They were handing out envelopes, and my other half was nowhere to be found. Just as we started to panic, he ran in from somewhere just in time to receive his envelope and open it in front of us.

The first thing I saw out of the envelope was something about Ohio. I started freaking out and crying because Ohio was NOT on the Match list and I felt like it was far, far away and somewhere I did not want to go. (No offense to anyone who lives there.) Apparently a match in Ohio was a false alarm. It was actually an advertisement for a dentist's office. In Ohio. Totally weird.

Then, the official Match was underneath that. A really small community in Maine. Maine was also NOT on the Match list. I started crying hysterically, the MS4 was not much comfort to me. I was curled up in a ball on the floor, telling everyone who came near that I had no idea where that town in Maine was. And that I did not want to go there (which is funny because I really want to visit there sometime soon). Luckily it was at this point that I woke up as the other half left for the hospital at 5 AM.

The other half thinks it might be a sign that he will have to scramble. I think he's just delusional from the lack of sleep this week.

So now the Match is back on my mind. Yipee.

I hope everyone else is surviving the calm before the storm, if you will.

I know exactly what you mean. Except we're willing to go anywhere, and my stress comes from trying to sort out details about registry stuff without knowing what kind of space we'll be in, or if we'll have to move all that stuff across the country. :/

Keep the faith, and hang in there -- soon it will ALL be over, and you will be able to enjoy your new spouse.

[MrsK]

Re: March 19th, 2009

I know exactly what you mean. Except we're willing to go anywhere, and my stress comes from trying to sort out details about registry stuff without knowing what kind of space we'll be in, or if we'll have to move all that stuff across the country. :/

We went ahead and registered for everything. Our moms insisted that we register for china, chrystal, etc. because if we didn't get the "good stuff" now, we'd never get it. It's a hassle to move that stuff but, frankly, moving is a hassle anyway. It wouldn't matter if our plates were china or paper. Also, getting pretty new china really does make a girl feel like a bride. We really enjoy all of our wedding gifts and we've made room for everything that we've wanted.

[alison]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Mrs K, your brother sounds like an absolutely wonderful person. "Formal and awkward" are good words to describe my little brother when you put him in a stressful situation, but at some point later in life, they really come out of their shell, don't they?

[MrsK]

Re: March 19th, 2009

Mrs K, your brother sounds like an absolutely wonderful person. "Formal and awkward" are good words to describe my little brother when you put him in a stressful situation, but at some point later in life, they really come out of their shell, don't they?

They do. Those nerdy guys turn out to be great husbands too.