Hello everyone! I need some help! I’m feeling desperate!
I found out last night that my fiancee and I are invited to a formal affair the first weekend in March. It is going to be held in a beautiful ballroom near the lake (gorgeous view). I feel really foolish for having to ask for advice, but I have never been to a formal event (I don’t think my high school prom of 12 years ago counts, lol). I am really nervous about going. I have never had the opportunity to go to something like this before.
I feel like I am going to be the only one there that doesn’t have a clue. I know there is going to be ballroom dancing. I want to make a good impression. We will be mingling with the dean, professors, etc.
I haven’t gone out and done anything for myself (shopping, salon, etc.) in such a long time (because of financial constraints with his schooling) that I really have forgotten that it is okay to spend money on myself. I work from home while he is going to college and both of us put in really long hours. I’ve gotten pretty comfortable wearing jeans and sweats with my hair in a messy ponytail. I know that I’ve let myself go a little since I have been working so much. I used to jump up, shower, put on makeup, and do my hair first thing. Now I get up and start work immediately then take a break around noon (unless I have to go somewhere) to shower. I still get myself fixed up when we go out or if I meet up at his school.
I have also put on about 20 lbs in the last three years. The change in my job was the biggest factor, now I sit all day at the computer and rarely get up. Most of the girls he goes to school with are like a size 2. I am not kidding. I handed one of his study partners her coat that was sitting next to me and saw that her tag read size “XS”. I felt like really large just then, I’m a size L/XL.
He’s told me that he wants me to go out and buy a really, really nice dress. He even said not to shop off the clearance rack and not to look at price tags before I pick one out. He knows me too well. He’s really trying to give me a night out to remember and make me feel special. I’m planning on going shopping this weekend when we go back to our hometown (near St. Louis). We live in Chicago.
I know that he wants to make a good impression that evening. I know it is a great opportunity for him to network and for me to meet new people. I just wish I wasn’t so nervous.
Does anyone have any suggestions for an out-of-style, not exactly rich, woman who has put on a few pounds? I don’t want to make a fool of myself or look like I have no sense of style because I do, it’s just hidden under my sweats.
Thanks for letting me get this all out of my system.
Shelley
I found out last night that my fiancee and I are invited to a formal affair the first weekend in March. It is going to be held in a beautiful ballroom near the lake (gorgeous view). I feel really foolish for having to ask for advice, but I have never been to a formal event (I don’t think my high school prom of 12 years ago counts, lol). I am really nervous about going. I have never had the opportunity to go to something like this before.
I feel like I am going to be the only one there that doesn’t have a clue. I know there is going to be ballroom dancing. I want to make a good impression. We will be mingling with the dean, professors, etc.
I haven’t gone out and done anything for myself (shopping, salon, etc.) in such a long time (because of financial constraints with his schooling) that I really have forgotten that it is okay to spend money on myself. I work from home while he is going to college and both of us put in really long hours. I’ve gotten pretty comfortable wearing jeans and sweats with my hair in a messy ponytail. I know that I’ve let myself go a little since I have been working so much. I used to jump up, shower, put on makeup, and do my hair first thing. Now I get up and start work immediately then take a break around noon (unless I have to go somewhere) to shower. I still get myself fixed up when we go out or if I meet up at his school.
I have also put on about 20 lbs in the last three years. The change in my job was the biggest factor, now I sit all day at the computer and rarely get up. Most of the girls he goes to school with are like a size 2. I am not kidding. I handed one of his study partners her coat that was sitting next to me and saw that her tag read size “XS”. I felt like really large just then, I’m a size L/XL.
He’s told me that he wants me to go out and buy a really, really nice dress. He even said not to shop off the clearance rack and not to look at price tags before I pick one out. He knows me too well. He’s really trying to give me a night out to remember and make me feel special. I’m planning on going shopping this weekend when we go back to our hometown (near St. Louis). We live in Chicago.
I know that he wants to make a good impression that evening. I know it is a great opportunity for him to network and for me to meet new people. I just wish I wasn’t so nervous.
Does anyone have any suggestions for an out-of-style, not exactly rich, woman who has put on a few pounds? I don’t want to make a fool of myself or look like I have no sense of style because I do, it’s just hidden under my sweats.
Thanks for letting me get this all out of my system.
Shelley
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