Who here has a SO that is MSIII?

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

That's great Cassy! Really happy for you guys that he got what he wanted. Max is interested in EM and Cardiology. He's got a shot at Cardio during IM but I think EM has to wait until 4th year. I don't think he's interested in Neuro or Psych per se so it's nice for him to get those out of the way and get some hospital experience first.

My boyfriend (also Army) started his first rotation on Monday. It's outpatient internal medicine, so a great easy schedule with no on-call times to start off with --though he's still adjusting to early mornings! I took off the week between Step 1 and his rotations to spend time together and it was wonderful-- so glad we had that one week. Things are easy so far, but I know other rotations will be harder.

[DCJenn]

Cassy-

I can tell you with some authority that neurologists are airheads. It's no coincidence that they're all brain and nerves and spine guys and they can't keep their own schedules straight. and really, never assume that someone 'knows' because seriously- there's a good chance that the thought's never occurred to them. Biggest group of completely unaware people that I've ever met. Now, NEUROLOGY- they know that part. Just nothing else about the world around them.

(the downside of being a part of what is typically a smallish department...)

Jenn

[DCJenn]

ah, Tulips part of the thread about the neuro/psych people not having a clue who goes first.

and yes, if he's an airhead then he'll fit right in. For our anniversary card I found one of a guy standing in front of an open refrigerator with nothing in it except sticks of butter and he's saying, "where's the butter." That's my life.

Jenn

[DCJenn]

No, you have far too much common sense.

Jenn

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

I've learned that most people in medicine are airheaded about the administrative details of their lives. I understand that many parts of medicine are by nature difficult to schedule (people don't get sick on a schedule), but honestly, shouldn't people know which specialty they're meeting with a few days in advance? (Still no word about neuro/psych first and we're 9 days out from starting; this matters because one hosp is a drive and one isn't and we've got to arrange car for our dog)

It's a little weird but my completely levelheaded DF has become airheaded since he started. It's like all those little facts pushed other details out of his head. I'm like listen, we don't even have kids yet, could you at least keep your OWN schedule straight? You're not THAT important, you're an MSIII. Maybe I'm a b**** but I'm going to expect you to keep your schedule straight until you start to actually do something medically useful or save a life. Then we can revisit (maybe).

[DCJenn]

See, you'd think that would be easier- for them to maintain their own schedule. In fact, I rule his universe. I actually send items to his outlook calendar at work and import his stuff to mine. It's better that way. That way I don't get mad if he forgets something because I remind (some might call it nag; I think it's 'gentle reminders') about his obligations.

I took over his finances when we were dating (MSIII, FYI) because I thought the awake one paying attention should probably be the one paying the bills.

Jenn

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Oh yeah, after the second straight month of overdraft charges (and the second month of joint account), I do the finances. His schedule is hard though because I'm out of state 2x a month.

I'm trying not to baby him and take things over because I don't want to set a precedent that he's helpless but I feel like that might be coming. Not sure which is worse, learned helplessness or getting frustrated every time he can't remember something and I have to rescue him.

[DCJenn]

Exactly the problem. My mother accuses me of enabling- and I do. But, at least I know that he knows where and when he's supposed to be someplace!

Jenn

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

haha, and this is why we have iMSN!!! So that people who actually know what it's like can give advice and commiserate about our enabling.

[seaside*bliss]

Wow! I actually thought mine was the only airhead! I have a lot of learning to do! The reference to looking in the fridge for butter when it's right there in front of him made me LMAO! I know exactly what you mean!!! I pretty much take care of most things and have a personal planner and a wipe off calendar so I can ensure both of our stuff gets taken care of! I often wonder how he made it through MS 1 & 2 without me! haha

[bokelley]

How funny. This is why I love this site. We all go through the same things!! My DH woke me up this morning, he was trying to do laundry. At least he tried. I guess the whole put liquid detergent here screwed him up LOL.

[DCJenn]

We were at a picnic today with my husband's boss and his colleagues and they asked me to please just email one of them directly with our leave requests because apparently my husband is really, REALLY bad at remembering to tell them in advance.

Jenn

[seaside*bliss]

Mine can't ever remember anything either. He'd be lost w/o me

Haha! This totally resonates with my too! My BF and I were out to dinner this weekend and someone asked him when his ob/gyn rotation in Hawaii was going to be. "Next February?" he said hesitantly, then looked at me... "Caitlin, any idea?" (It's next April and I told out friends the exact dates). He can't keep a single detail of his life straight, but is learning to make lots of lists to manage patients, since I can't take over that organization for him I don't think of it as enabling as much as an area of our lives where we complement each other well. Two overly organized planners seems like it would lead to more conflict (IMO)