I have him trained right...

[DCJenn]

He's out looking at apartments since the house is supposedly going to sell mid-December. Cell phone call during dude's class this morning:

"How much do I make a month?"
"When do I get paid? It's the 15th and the 31st, right?"
"Who can I use as a landlord reference?" "Oh, right. We own them, ok."
If something happens to me, he'll be clueless.

J.

Love it. At least he called. My dh woukd have just winged it, and way over extended himself bc everything in his mind is based on gross salary.

[GrayMatterWife]

Yep. GOOD JOB!!

My guy is the same way: "Where do we bank?" "Do I have an ATM card?" "I didn't realize that I contributed to a 403(b)..."

Whatever, buddy. I swear, if I pull out $20 a week in cash for him from the bank, he's set.

[peggyfromwastate]

Haha. Totally the same here.

[migirl]

Awesome.

DH actually said to me the other day, "If you ever die, I'm screwed."

[PrincessFiona]

Crack me up. Sadly, I'm your dh. I can't even keep it in my head how much we earn each month. I just ... buy the food and hope I haven't overspent. If anything happened to Thomas, I'd be screwed.

You need to give me lessons.

Kris

[SoonerTexan]

I cant get J to check our bank account--he has 3 times since we were married. And I forced him every time. Honestly, I'm not happy about it, but at least he has figured out how much I've spent on decorating yet...

[MDPhDWife]

Haha, same thing here! I actually forced DH to sit down w/ me to pay the bills a couple of times just so I knew he would know what to do if I wasn't around. How much of that info he retained is a different story.

I'm sympathizing with you, Kris. DH frequently rambles on about how soon we'll have such-and-such paid off, and then we can move money around and do blah-de-blah. But if it doesn't affect my little corner of the budget, it goes in one ear and out the other.
DH didn't get around to filling out our mortgage application quickly enough for me, so I did it all myself last month. Best thing ever. I now have a detailed list of creditors, bank accounts, IRAs, etc. Just so long as nothing changes before he dies (hopefully 40-some years from now), I'm all set!
ETA - He also keeps on old-fashioned, printed out & penciled in budget sheet every month, and he has kept them every month for the past decade. If he dies, it won't be hard for anyone to see where our money should be going.

[weeniegeniewife]

"I didn't realize that I contributed to a 403(b)..."

..

[Michele]

I'm in the dark like you Kris. Russ does everything online because he went out of town for an away rotation and we missed a mortgage payment. He only tells me when I'm spending too much. I don't even know how many student loans he has or how much my student loan repayment is even! If he left me, I'd be rather screwed financially. Though with three kids I'd probably qualify for food stamps. I hear in Louisiana you get $1000 a month for 3 kids.

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[PrincessFiona]

I'm glad I'm not alone, Michele. Thomas does it all online too. I have access to our account, obviously, but I just don't have the time or emotional energy to check it out. If we are approaching low funds, he says "no more spending". I don't shop frivolously, and stick mostly to the grocery store (with the exception of the occasional TJ Maxx binge LOL). It works, so ... yah....I'm kind of appalled at myself. If something happened to him, I'd have to really step it up and organize myself.

Kris

"How much do I make a month?"
"When do I get paid? It's the 15th and the 31st, right?"
"Who can I use as a landlord reference?" "Oh, right. We own them, ok."
If something happens to me, he'll be clueless.

J.

Mine is one of these. He just asks me every month "are we okay on money?" and I tell him yes. He had never even seen someone balance a checkbook with an actual pen and paper before we met. In fact I don't think he has ever even written a check. He would definitely be screwed if I went anywhere, that and he would starve. He can't really feed himself either, unless frozen pizzas count. *sigh*

[houseelf]

When we were on a scouting trip before our last move, I specifically went to the lobbey of the hospital to determine which banks had ATMs there so I would no longer serve as DH's ATM. We had to change all of our accounts over anyway, why not try to avoid ATM charges right. He has used that ATM card a single time to get out money and sulked about it to boot. I gave up on the whole concept and now keep a cash envelope in the house for him.

We have had quarrels over my trying to enlist his involvement in the family finances. He remains blissfully clueless.

[GrayMatterWife]

When we were on a scouting trip before our last move, I specifically went to the lobbey of the hospital to determine which banks had ATMs there so I would no longer serve as DH's ATM. We had to change all of our accounts over anyway, why not try to avoid ATM charges right. He has used that ATM card a single time to get out money and sulked about it to boot. I gave up on the whole concept and now keep a cash envelope in the house for him.

We have had quarrels over my trying to enlist his involvement in the family finances. He remains blissfully clueless.

YES YES YES! THIS!

I went to the hospital, found the bank with a branch there, set up his account for direct deposit, and gave him his ATM.

He never activated the ATM card.

I just pull out a $20 from my wallet and give it to him. He's happy.