How can I support my anxiety prone partner?

[DrBandMe]

And then he'll worry about different shit.

There's perpetually "different shit", isn't there?

(I already know the answer... haha)

PS, I like your style.

[LadyFoot]

You guys are amazing. I found this site because hubby is stressing out out residency interviews and matching. I feel like I can see a light in the tunnel but I can't always tell if it's the other side or the train coming to flatten us. Lol. You're right, though, there's always "different shit" to worry about. It's helpful to hear about all the crap other people have already waded through, though.

[lavenderrlily]

Thats a tough time. My DH gets prone to stress too (but hey, who isn't when doing stressful things!), and back when he was taking step 1 I was actually studying for my bar exam at the same time. Needless to say, it was a stressful time. Because we were both stressed we had a conversation about it - and just straight up asked each other what would be helpful. Everyone studies differently, perhaps you already know if your hubby is the type to like to discuss everything, or need some cookies and hugs, or just needs space. But i found it helpful to say "what can i do? how can i help? and please tell me when you need space?"
Good luck!

[LadyFoot]

We had a really good conversation about it the other day. It started out pretty stressful, but we were able to both be really honest about what was causing stress for both of us and what we could do to help. We ended up joining a gym (not what I expected when the conversation started!) and have started working out together. The exercise has helped dh a TON with handling stress. It's still a stressful situation with lots of ups and down, but taking time to pause and work out has helped him be a lot more productive in his remaining "free time." Whatever that is. Not to mention I enjoy the extra time with him we get by going together!