QOTW: Best year/Worst year

[Vanquisher]

What was the best year of your life so far, and why?

What was the worst year of your life so far and why?

[alotofyarn]

Best is a toss up between 2008/9, the early years of our marriage, when hubby was working and I was in grad school, and life was good and easy, and this past year, being pregnant and having E.

Worst is probably 2012, when we were struggling to conceive, miscarried, hubby was working hard and doing aways in preparation for residency applications, and I didn't love parts of my job.

[SoonerTexan]

What was the best year of your life so far, and why?

Man, I dunno. The past couple of years have been pretty good.

What was the worst year of your life so far and why?

2004. DH and I had just met and he had moved away and we missed each other like crazy. School was overwhelming and I severely sprained my ankle/got poison ivy/ringworm all at once.

[corn poffi]

Best years: my last year of college and the year I met the SO

Worst: 2006. That was a rough one. And then the past 3 years of residency. Zero of those years can be considered good years. Although we did have fun last summer, so maybe 2013 wasn't a total wash.

[HouseofWool]

I feel like 2014 wins both titles. I FINALLY feel like I am in a groove. I have a good network of friends here, the kids are well settled, I love my neighborhood, I finally am out of the hole from buy the house, Dipshit being in the same town has allowed me some flexibility with life. At the same time? Yeah, it all goes up in a fucking fireball later this summer when we likely move to FL. FL will offer some tremendous career opportunities and NO SHOVELING, but I leave my comfort zone behind and it scares the crap out of me.

[WolfpackWife]

It's interesting to me in hindsight now may of the past few years I'd label as "best" because of how much I've hated the past couple of years.

That said, 2010 through August of 2012 were pretty great - we traveled to Paris, moved into a gorgeous home in a fantastic neighborhood, both had great jobs, I studied abroad in London, DH proposed to me the day before my 25th birthday, 6 months later we found out he'd gotten into med school, and 6 months after that we were married. We honeymooned and lived up the newlywed life for a few more weeks before moving for med school in August of 2012 and that's where the "best" promptly ends.

The past year and a half have been really rough for me. They've been the worst due to an ever-lengthening list of realizations I've had since starting this medical school journey, we've had to adjust to a difficult change in schedule and expectations of each other, I don't like where we live and desperately miss home, and don't feel live I've adjusted well, which makes me sad all over again.

[spaz]

Best year of my life.. I guess 1990, the year of our marriage. It was an awesome first year. I'm not sure we ever got into a fight.

Worst year.... I don't know. 2005/6 was AWFUL... But I'm not sure 2012/3 were any better... I sure miss dating and our first 5 years.... medical school and residency were so much better than "real" life.

[Pollyanna]

End of 2010-part of 2011 is when we lost three babies. It was an extremely numb and emotionally sad time. For sure the worst time.

The best is hard because we've most certainly been blessed with much more good then bad. 1996 was pretty great, we had two babies, dh was in grad school and we had really fallen in love with northern CA. This year has been great as well, kids are settled, we love middle TN and our new neighborhood. Dh is getting busier and busier but we feel solid and happy with where we are in our marriage.

[Curegirl]

Best year: Last year of college. The first half I lived on my own then second half I had a great roommate. We didn't have any real worries and it was a happy time. Also, the first few months of dating my boyfriend were amazing even though it was smack in the middle of residency.

Worst year: High school years through present give or take. Too many traumatic things happened although I learned a lot of valuable lessons so maybe the bad situations were necessary. I just wish they weren't quite as frequent!

[Thirteen]

I want to say 1994-96 were great years: still a kid, entering into teenagerdom. Late elementary school rocked!

(Junior high sucked)

Hardest year? Probably our first year of marriage: I lived in a very high CoL area, was finishing grad school but couldn't even find a job volunteering, and I went from living alone in my own apartment to being married to a resident and living with his family. It felt like a huge step backwards in many, many ways.


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[MsSassyBaskets]

Worst - age 13 or 17 because of teen angst and depression; or maybe age 20 because of horrible college boyfriend. Age 17 probably wins out for worst ever.

Best - REALLY hard to say. Most of the past 8.5 years with DH, minus maybe 2011-2012 (MS-1 and just before). I had a really bad job, then the adjustment and homesickness were tough, and I hated planning our wedding from 1,000 miles away, but it still doesn't belong on the "worst" list. This year has been pretty fab so far - got a promotion, got pregnant, both of our siblings getting married, living in a place we enjoy, and gearing up for applications/match. Next year is going to be HARD and so, so busy, but there's so much to look forward to as well!

[MAPPLEBUM]

13, I remember you mentioning that when I first joined. I remember being like 'holyyyy shit I can't imagine.' you are by far a better woman than i.

I don't know, my general view of life is that it keeps getting better. I had some really dark years in childhood but they're so long ago I don't think about that much anymore. So for worst year I would probably have to say end of college, first year of grad school. I sabotaged a really great relationship. When we broke up, out of spite and perhaps to punish myself I committed to going to FSU for grad school instead of a program in NYC or Boston. It ended up being a great program, plus I got paid to attend, but at the time I was heartbroken and miserable.

I'll say the year I met and fell in love with husband was a pretty damn good year. He's most definitely one of the best things that's ever happened to me. By the time we met I was tired of the bar scene, figuring out I needed a break from school, and starting to have some serious questions about my self worth. My last two boyfriends before him both said the same thing, even though they were divided by 1,000 miles and over a year: "you're a lot of fun but I could never love you." So meeting a guy who loved the outdoors, brilliant and hardworking, AS WELL as quite clearly falling head over heals for me felt like a gift I never deserved. It still feels that way, and he and I just keep getting better. Last thing, when we first met he said I was the female version of himself, or his complement. I was so cynical I just thought it was cute he would be so romantic. I have to say the longer we're together the more I believe he was right.

[spaz]

I don't know, my general view of life is that it keeps getting better.
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Ah the naivete of the young.... Cherish this time. Cherish it... Storms will come. They will: infertility, a prodigal child, taking care of your parents/watching them get weaker and weaker and having to take care of them, being the victim of a natural disaster, a sudden health crisis, a financial crisis, etc You WILL have at least one of these. So enjoy now.

[Thirteen]

Ah the naivete of the young.... Cherish this time. Cherish it... Storms will come. They will: infertility, a prodigal child, taking care of your parents/watching them get weaker and weaker and having to take care of them, being the victim of a natural disaster, a sudden health crisis, a financial crisis, etc You WILL have at least one of these. So enjoy now.

I'm not trying to disrupt anyone here, and you are probably right: storms of life do come.
Heck, I can be pretty cynical and jaded myself.

However... This post is pretty dark, and somewhat projecting. I know you have been having an incredibly trying time, and I sympathize to the best of my ability, but I don't believe that poo-pooing on another member's life outlook will do any good.


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[PrincessFiona]

Ah the naivete of the young.... Cherish this time. Cherish it... Storms will come. They will: infertility, a prodigal child, taking care of your parents/watching them get weaker and weaker and having to take care of them, being the victim of a natural disaster, a sudden health crisis, a financial crisis, etc You WILL have at least one of these. So enjoy now.

Ouch. Maybe you need a separate thread? I know things are hard right now. This just feels harsh to say to someone expressing a positive outlook on aging.

I feel like my life has been getting better as I age even having experienced a sudden health crisis and a variety of other issues. I know that there will be tough times ahead, but I feel better.

the worst year of my life? Having cancer during my pregnancy with zoe.
The best year (s): 1992-4 when I met and married Thomas ... and ... this past year has been pretty great too. I've been able to manage my depressions for the first time in my life. I feel free.