No worries at all about ranting; this is what we're here for!
My "cut her some slack" comment was more about this being her very first month of residency. Nobody's saying it's going to be this hard for all four years, or that medicine should take priority over family *all* the time, or that she should get a blank check pass ("medicine is NOT a pass to be an ass" is one of our mottoes, here) ...but the first little while can be extra-rough, so I wouldn't be too quick to question her priorities just yet. She needs time to figure out how things work where she is, and to figure out how much she can rock the boat without causing bigger problems. You may be running your "goodwill bank" low, but she doesn't even HAVE one, yet, and needs to build it up....and she's probably overwhelmed and sleep-deprived on top of everything else.
It's rough, and it's going to be particularly difficult with two inflexible, demanding careers, but respect and open communication will take you a long way.
My "cut her some slack" comment was more about this being her very first month of residency. Nobody's saying it's going to be this hard for all four years, or that medicine should take priority over family *all* the time, or that she should get a blank check pass ("medicine is NOT a pass to be an ass" is one of our mottoes, here) ...but the first little while can be extra-rough, so I wouldn't be too quick to question her priorities just yet. She needs time to figure out how things work where she is, and to figure out how much she can rock the boat without causing bigger problems. You may be running your "goodwill bank" low, but she doesn't even HAVE one, yet, and needs to build it up....and she's probably overwhelmed and sleep-deprived on top of everything else.
It's rough, and it's going to be particularly difficult with two inflexible, demanding careers, but respect and open communication will take you a long way.
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