Making a Wedding Registry

[LynnAlicia]

How do you feel about wedding gift registries? As a bride/groom and as a guest?

We're getting married next summer so going through the list of stuff to do. We haven't been to many weddings so we don't have that much experience with them. We REALLY want the wedding to be simple so trying to decide what "traditions" we are going to do.

Thank you!

[medpedspouse]

As a recipient, I enjoyed picking out stuff (that we still enjoy 18 yrs later) as a couple. As a guest, I like them because it gives me an idea for gifts. I usually buy one thing off the registry and add something personalized if I am pretty close to the couple. If not, I just buy off the registry or get a gift certificate to the store.

Having said that...call me old fashion but I am put off if I get the registry info inside the wedding invite. A big no, no in my day.

[OrionGrad]

As a recipient, I enjoyed picking out stuff (that we still enjoy 18 yrs later) as a couple. As a guest, I like them because it gives me an idea for gifts. I usually buy one thing off the registry and add something personalized if I am pretty close to the couple. If not, I just buy off the registry or get a gift certificate to the store.

Having said that...call me old fashion but I am put off if I get the registry info inside the wedding invite. A big no, no in my day.

I totally agree with this. Having a registry makes it easier for guests who aren't sure what to buy, but I dislike it when people put registry info inside the wedding invite.

[WolfpackWife]

I totally agree with the above! Registries are fun and take the guesswork out of buying for a couple - especially if your family/friends aren't inclined to give cash (which, in the south, generally it's considered bad form to give cash instead of a gift). And scanning stuff is so much fun! We had a great time registering.

I think people like contributing to a new couple's new life together whether it's with a picture frame or a set of dishes they'll eat off of for years to come. At least, I do!

[lovelight]

Agree totally with wpw. I refuse to give cash, even when couples have no registry. Typically we get them a gift from the registry and a picture frame with their invitation engraved on it (one of my gave gifts that somebody gave us for our wedding).


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[KlynK]

I loved making a registry and it was fun to see how our styles would mesh/things we thought were or weren't necessary for our house. As a guest, I enjoy when a registry is provided. I'm with some of the ladies above - I tend to do something I pick and something from the registry that I know the couple wants.


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[SoonerTexan]

I like it. How the hell am I supposed to find it otherwise?

[BonBon]

I am grateful for registries. Otherwise how do you know what to buy? After my parents' wedding, my mom put all the cards in a scrapbook and in each card wrote what gift they received. They got a LOT of sheet sets of varying sizes. How is that helpful?!

It's funny that gifts of money can be seen as rude. Here in the Northeast, there are usually boxes set out for cards w/money. I'd rather bring a gift, but in a pinch will give money.

[ladymoreta]

I also love registries. I know it's technically bad form to send registry info with invitations, but it's just so darned practical that I like it when couples do. Even though they're following etiquette rules by not mentioning where they're registered, I get so irritated going to all the common registry sites and searching for couples to see if they're registered there. I guess I'm supposed to call their parents or something, but I just hate talking on the phone.

[SoonerTexan]

I think we put our wedding website in the invite and had our registries there. But I really don't mind it in the invite. I'm going to bring a gift, so make it easy for me. Sometimes the etiquette nonsense is just that

[Thirteen]

I think ours had a separate little piece of paper with the registry information.


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[medpedspouse]

I think we put our wedding website in the invite and had our registries there. But I really don't mind it in the invite. I'm going to bring a gift, so make it easy for me. Sometimes the etiquette nonsense is just that

I disagree that it is nonsense. I can see how many see it as a must do when being invited to a wedding...I suspect that is because we have evolved to think that we are expected to buy a gift for the couple. I have actually heard brides list the amount of $ they are spending on each guest and expect a return on their "investment" I suppose. Not saying you believe that ST.

A wedding invite is just that...an invitation. You are inviting me. The pleasure of someone's company/attendance is what you are asking for - right? It would be like adding my amazon wish list to my bday party invites. Easy for those wanting to buy a gift but it also makes it look like a gift is expected.

Maybe I am too old.

[MrsK]

I disagree that it is nonsense. I can see how many see it as a must do when being invited to a wedding...I suspect that is because we have evolved to think that we are expected to buy a gift for the couple. I have actually heard brides list the amount of $ they are spending on each guest and expect a return on their "investment" I suppose. Not saying you believe that ST.

A wedding invite is just that...an invitation. You are inviting me. The pleasure of someone's company/attendance is what you are asking for - right? It would be like adding my amazon wish list to my bday party invites. Easy for those wanting to buy a gift but it also makes it look like a gift is expected.

Maybe I am too old.

ITA.

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[MrsK]

Regarding the original post, if you are interested in what is traditionalist, registries were originally intended for china and silver patterns only. Not even how many place settings. It was so people wishing to send gifts would know the bride's style.

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[corn poffi]

Yup. Especially now with so many people having wedding websites or posting on sites like theknot. I don't think there's any reason to ever put it on the invite.

A shower invitation is one thing, but the wedding invite? No.