What is your greatest challenge right now

[PrincessFiona]

...related to your spouse's career.

[HouseofWool]

The fact that he doesn't have one and isn't paying child support...

[PrincessFiona]

1. His exhaustion. His partner went into semi-retirement and his workload increased. It's hard realizing that regardless of the stage of training we've been in, work is always a major player.

2. My envy. It really is ridiculous and deserves its own post.

[Vanquisher]

Contract limbo/current job (not enough money, too much stress). We will be negotiating contracts with lawyers and administrators and paper pushing robot idiots until the end of time because physicians have no power in medicine anymore.

[medpedspouse]

1) pay cut for exchange in quality of life.

2) Can't get a job in this town to make up the difference and continue my career.

3) worrying about money like we did when he was in training.

4) The state of medicine, reimbursements, etc.

[WolfpackWife]

1) The completely bleak and negative outlook for medicine and physicians. There is literally no article written that has any positive spin on this career path and it's fucking depressing

2) The mountains of debt we're looking at

3) How not close to finishing we are

4) The time factor isn't great right now, but I can't complain too much because the last two rotations weren't awful, and this one is only five more weeks. Talk to me again in Jan - April when he's on Surgery, Peds, and Ob/Gyn.

5) The fact that, at the heart of it, I have absolutely no clue - NONE - what we've gotten ourselves into. Many of the end-of-the-road positives people used to throw out (plentiful jobs, great pay, respect from most everyone) don't seem to apply much any more. I have no idea if there will be any reward at the end of this road. For both of us together or separately.

[MAPPLEBUM]

weight. I finally made an appointment with a PCP to make sure something's not off. But that's in a month! I was supposed to, and trying to drop the pounds this summer. Now that it's starting to get cold again I hate the idea of squeezing into my jeans for another winter.

[OrionGrad]

Managing a newborn and a 2 year old while he's working crazy and unpredictable hours.

[SoonerTexan]

The fact that residency allows for no flexibility. When my job gets crazy I have to do crazy things like work from home with 2 kids under 3 when things are hard at work, but it totally isn't an option for him. All on me

[JDAZ11]

That I'm not thrilled with where we have to live. His job is going really well here, so the odds of a better one popping up are slim. I feel trapped, and winter is on it's way. 😱⛄️❄️😱⛄️❄️. I just don't know if I can live with these seemingly endless winters.

[Mrs. MD, Esq.]

That I feel like he's a bit burned out with his coworkers.

The uncertainty if where we'll be in two years (and then the next year after that), when it's feasible for us to start having babies (which is related), etc.

[Thirteen]

I have all the feelings, my brain is gone, & my energy and patience are both on vacation.


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[Curegirl]

Depression.

[oceanchild]

That he has to find a real job now!

[rain_dancer]

Ohhh my list on this topic could be so long, but I will limit it.

1) location - Across the country from all of our family (who we are very close to), in a small town with little culture and surprising few career opportunities for me unless I want to commute at least an hour each way.

2) his emotional exhaustion - I barely see him anyway but, when I do, he's too tired and stressed to be there with me emotionally.

3) my feelings that this will never be worth it - I've already decided that all of the sacrifices we've made and will continue to make for medicine will never be worth it, but I do it bc I love him. I'm just afraid that at some point he with think/realize that it wasn't worth it too.