Residency Expectations?

I'm not sure what the solution is--whether I should be arranging "play-dates" for him just like I do for my children???

It's funny- that's almost exactly what I was thinking the other day-- my friend and I decided to take our boyfriends to Dave and Busters so they could get to know each other while shooting aliens or whatever. I asked her if this is what parenting would be like. And the scary thing is-- it seems to work. The boys are very excited about their play date.

Flynn, it's not so much that he's unwilling to get to know my friends (he's really nice to them and they all like him), it's more that he's never had friends in this city outside of medicine. He came here from California for med school and he's kept the same friends since 1st year. I guess every good quality has its downside. He's extremely loyal-- to a fault-- and I don't think it occurs to him that he would need other friends.

Did any of you ever feel like the guy you're dating would never grow up? I always thought of doctors as very mature people (I suppose they must get that way somehow...) and yet it's taken a full year for my boyfriend to figure out that I don't enjoy watching his friends play MarioKart!

[migirl]

Did any of you ever feel like the guy you're dating would never grow up? ... it's taken a full year for my boyfriend to figure out that I don't enjoy watching his friends play MarioKart!

Unfortunately, my husband is still in this stage of his life. When we would come home and visit from med school and stay with his family, his family and I would often all sit around in the family room ... watching my husband play video games. Fortunately this doesn't happen quite as often now, especially since we've dedicated our basement TV to video-game-playing!

[Auspicious]

I always thought of doctors as very mature people (I suppose they must get that way somehow...)

I think they just learn how to fake it at work.

[SueC]

I think someone on this board mentioned once that being in medical school, residency, fellowship, etc., kind of keeps them in that "student" stage longer than others because they are essentially still training. I think that's definitely true, and makes them maybe seem a little less "mature" than their non-medical counterparts.