Gift giving

[Thirteen]

I put DH in charge of his family. He forgot and asked me what I got them...
Um, nothing?


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[diggitydot]

JFC. That takes a lot of balls, B. I would be LIVID.

[niener]

JFC. That takes a lot of balls, B. I would be LIVID.

Seriously! NFW.

[medpedspouse]

I put DH in charge of his family. He forgot and asked me what I got them...
Um, nothing?


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Bawhaha! Same here...except he has not even remembered to ask. There has been no mothers day, bdays or Christmas since 2012. If my MIL ever dares to ask, I will defer to her son.

[medpedspouse]

B, what is the worst that can happen if you do not give them anything anymore? If laying on the guilt = you buying them stuff, they may never stop.

[ides]

My parents don't ask yet since we have been out of training I send small gifts for their birthdays and xmas (book, chocolate, coffee, etc). They give us a gift for Xmas but I'd almost rather they didn't. My mom has terrible taste and they really don't know us at all. I sometimes get gifts for my sisters family but it's not consistent. She grudgingly send us things now and again which is nice but not expected since we can't stand one another. Other than that we just buy for ourselves and O. I HATE demanding, selfish gift requiring people. They suck! I'm sorry B!

[SoonerTexan]

We don't include one bro anymore because the dude hasn't bought a gift for someone as long as I can remember, even when he got someone In the exchange.

So we cut him out and he is fine with it. I did get him this though (gag gift from a white elephant)

He loved it

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[Curegirl]

Brandi, I'm sorry...it's the worst when people get petty with gifts. Takes all the fun out of it

[peggyfromwastate]

What??? That's so wrong B. You had such a fun time shopping for the kids. That's over the top generosity right there.

My one bro gives nothing, my other bro gives a huge amazon gift card for the family, my sister sends gifts for the kids. My mom and dad usually send some fruit and a modest check. They deliver gifts for the kids on a visit close to Xmas. If we were at their house for Xmas (hasn't happened in years) then there are many more gifts, but mostly small stuff I don't want and can't use.

Sigh. They apparently expect you to just send cash. I wouldn't give them anything since you stated your desire to not have presents sent to you since you are an adult.

"We have decided to focus on giving gifts to the kids for Christmas. We don't expect gifts since we are independent adults now."

Sheeeesh.

[rainbabies]

Ohhhh Brandi that is terrible. I'm
So upset for you. What is wrong with people?! 😞
Christmas, imo..is about KIDS. and family get togethers. I'm truly sorry, Brandi.

[MarissaNicole]

Ohhhh Brandi that is terrible. I'm
So upset for you. What is wrong with people?! 😞
Christmas, imo..is about KIDS. and family get togethers. I'm truly sorry, Brandi.

ITA.

We do gifts for neices and nephews. You were incredibly generous with yours. I don't get why your sister would expect anything?

I'd probably say something snippy or passive agressive considering how ungrateful your father sounds for his Birthday gift...

We avoid any expectations by just saying "No gifts for adults, Christmas is about the kids."

Wife of a PGY-5

[BonBon]

I buy for our parents, my siblings get restaurant gift cards, but that's it for adults. My sibs get us food and wine. DH's sister and kids live in AR, so we discontinued trading gifts because it's a pita. HOWEVER, there is no real expectation or rules about giving/receiving anything. I would be very sour on it in your shoes. That's really disappointing, and I can see how you would feel like you were merely a checkbook to them. That would kill my spirit of giving. :/

I thought that was really nice and generous of you to shop for the kids as you did.