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A friend who is a marriage and family counselor posted this on facebook, and I thought it was relevant to a lot of our discussions about SOs fulfilling needs:
Healthy & happy marriages need both Buckets and Boundaries.
BUCKETS: Love thoughtfully seeks to fill the bucket of my spouse’s emotional needs.
BOUNDARIES: Love mindfully sets boundaries to protect myself, my spouse, and my marriage.
Before someone says it....yes, I know it's not totally up to us to meet all of someone else's emotional needs. I know about co-dependency issues. I also know that some needy people seem to have buckets that can never be filled...
...but in a healthy marriage both the husband & the wife have buckets containing normal, valid, and healthy needs, along with having reasonable expectations that a spouse will seek to meet some of those needs.
BUCKETS: Love thoughtfully seeks to fill the bucket of my spouse’s emotional needs.
BOUNDARIES: Love mindfully sets boundaries to protect myself, my spouse, and my marriage.
Before someone says it....yes, I know it's not totally up to us to meet all of someone else's emotional needs. I know about co-dependency issues. I also know that some needy people seem to have buckets that can never be filled...
...but in a healthy marriage both the husband & the wife have buckets containing normal, valid, and healthy needs, along with having reasonable expectations that a spouse will seek to meet some of those needs.