Maybe this belongs under the confessions thread.
I live in a condominium with less than 10 units.
One neighbor like to spread embellished gossip. I keep her at arms length knowing if she is saying catty things about all the other neighbors, she doing the same thing about us. We all know the type.
Two years ago I got some of her mail and handed it back to her. She told me thanks, it was her disability pay. She's told us she has fibermyalgia and is on disability. Her husband was out of work when she told us about this and she told us that she works for a vet on a cash under the table basis.
I didn't approve of it, but we all have tough times and have to make moral decisions. Who am I to judge.
Two years ago she hired some workers for the condo. She claims said they damaged her storm shutters and that she doesnt feel safe with them not operating. ( Never mind that I can see her backyard from ours and she had never used them. Since the people she hired were doing work for the condo, she felt the condo should pay for the repair. It was $300. Everyone felt it was just easier to pay the $300 than make an issue of it. She also made a claim on her insurance.
Last year she parked her car on the street and left her purse and laptop on the passenger seat. It was broken into. She told me about it. Later she told me that she had added to the claim that her mother's jewelry was in her purse, even though it wasn't.
Last October she needed some condo info. Seems her insurance had dropped her after making three claims in a year. (Not sure what the third one was.)
I was tempted to mention it to the insurance, but... ehhhhh.....
This week she tried to push through the condo maint. contract. I called a halt to it because we had three bids. $2,100 ; $3,100 and $6,000. She insisted on the $6,000 bid.
Being the president of the condo I called all three bids. All three used the same materials. One was a solo guy (the cheap one) and the other two were companies.
Anyone wanna guess what I found?
Yep, she was getting highly discounted personal services from the $6,000 bidder, contingent on him getting the condo bid.
So the ethical question is why is the last incident riling me up? The first two were just as bad.
The only explanation is that the last one affects me very personally. But ethically they are all the same.
I'm obviously taking action on the last one. But my flexible ethics bother me. Should I go back and report all the issues? Or just the last one? If just the last one, how is that ethical?
Thoughts?
I live in a condominium with less than 10 units.
One neighbor like to spread embellished gossip. I keep her at arms length knowing if she is saying catty things about all the other neighbors, she doing the same thing about us. We all know the type.
Two years ago I got some of her mail and handed it back to her. She told me thanks, it was her disability pay. She's told us she has fibermyalgia and is on disability. Her husband was out of work when she told us about this and she told us that she works for a vet on a cash under the table basis.
I didn't approve of it, but we all have tough times and have to make moral decisions. Who am I to judge.
Two years ago she hired some workers for the condo. She claims said they damaged her storm shutters and that she doesnt feel safe with them not operating. ( Never mind that I can see her backyard from ours and she had never used them. Since the people she hired were doing work for the condo, she felt the condo should pay for the repair. It was $300. Everyone felt it was just easier to pay the $300 than make an issue of it. She also made a claim on her insurance.
Last year she parked her car on the street and left her purse and laptop on the passenger seat. It was broken into. She told me about it. Later she told me that she had added to the claim that her mother's jewelry was in her purse, even though it wasn't.
Last October she needed some condo info. Seems her insurance had dropped her after making three claims in a year. (Not sure what the third one was.)
I was tempted to mention it to the insurance, but... ehhhhh.....
This week she tried to push through the condo maint. contract. I called a halt to it because we had three bids. $2,100 ; $3,100 and $6,000. She insisted on the $6,000 bid.
Being the president of the condo I called all three bids. All three used the same materials. One was a solo guy (the cheap one) and the other two were companies.
Anyone wanna guess what I found?
Yep, she was getting highly discounted personal services from the $6,000 bidder, contingent on him getting the condo bid.
So the ethical question is why is the last incident riling me up? The first two were just as bad.
The only explanation is that the last one affects me very personally. But ethically they are all the same.
I'm obviously taking action on the last one. But my flexible ethics bother me. Should I go back and report all the issues? Or just the last one? If just the last one, how is that ethical?
Thoughts?
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