Picking who you're friends with on FB

[PrincessFiona]

Generally speaking, how do you choose your FB friends?

I have some old IRL friends, some current IRL friends, some iMSN friends, some school "friends" and then it gets sticky. There are a few neighbors (and that's fine) and there is someone from work (turns out that was a mistake given the new drama). Do you friend people from work?

Kris


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[OrionGrad]

If I know the person IRL, there's a 99% chance I'll add them if they friend me. I just feel like it would be awkward not to accept a person's friend request, and then to see him/her in a work or social setting. But I rarely post anything on FB anyway, so that makes it easier to go ahead and accept.

[MrsK]

I never friend anyone from a workplace at which I'm currently employed. Once I or the other person leave the workplace, if we remain in contact, then I will friend them. But I never socialized with co-workers.

[PrincessFiona]

I wish I'd adhered to that policy, [MENTION=1498]MrsK[/MENTION] Darnit!


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[mommax3]

Picking who you're friends with on FB

I'm friends on Facebook with many of my co-workers. However, they are also my friends IRL, my neighbors, parents of my kids' friends, etc. Life in a small town, lol! I do NOT friend students (unless they have graduated) or random student parents, though, even if they ask. It's not really an issue with students anymore, because kids don't really do facebook. Actually, *I* don't do much on facebook anymore, either, other than read and occasionally post pictures.


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[MrsK]

I wish I'd adhered to that policy, [MENTION=1498]MrsK[/MENTION] Darnit!


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I don't do it because when I have done so, I've learned about personal dramas and was expected to be a confidant at work. When I was working in an office, I didn't have time to talk. It also made things awkward when I was senior to them. The support staff thought I was rigid/bitchy because I wouldn't do happy hours or the group costume for Halloween but I really didn't care. They never expected the men to dress up as belly dancers with them or gossip about their love lives or be friends with them. I was always friendly yet maintained a professional distance. If there was a serious problem, I'd advocate on behalf of co-workers (for instance, taking up a collection to pay funeral costs when a paralegal lost her husband, personally writing the check to the funeral home, driving people to the funeral, and encouraging HR and the attorney in charge of her department to be lenient about her absence from the office ) but I didn't want to know about if someone was arrested for drunkenly harassing her ex or whatnot.

[SoonerTexan]

Picking who you're friends with on FB

I am only Facebook friends with close coworkers that I am friends with outside work..

As for others, I find myself unfollowing people a lot, particularly if they make endless political or similar annoying as hell stuff that clogs the newsfeed. I'm still friends but I don't have to view all their drama and crap and find I tend to like them better


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[Sheherezade]

I have complex FB stuff now, because I do have friends that I work with who it would have been impossible for me to ignore after they sent me a request. It's a small town, and everyone knows I am on FB frequently. I have a group set up that I call "restricted". I put people that I'd rather not have friended in that box, and my posting is set to go to Friends, except Restricted. Every now and then, I'll make a public post, or put something up to all Friends. In general, I feel better if I can limit how intimate my social media connections are through filters, though.

[medpedspouse]

I do not friend anyone I work with. Once we no longer work together, if I am moving out of town, I may friend them. I say may because I would not friend anyone whom I intend to continue a strictly professional relationship.

I do not friend anyone I see regularly. Why? I know what is going on in their lives anyway. I ised to have a rule of not friending anyone within my same zip code.

[medpedspouse]

I do not friend anyone I work with. Once we no longer work together, if I am moving out of town, I may friend them. I say may because I would not friend anyone whom I intend to continue a strictly professional relationship.

I do not friend anyone I see regularly. Why? I know what is going on in their lives anyway. However, I just added a local group because we all travel so much that I created a FB group so we can keep up with what is going on. I used to have a rule of not friending anyone within my same zip code. Having strict rules makes it easier to not accept requests from people you do not want to "friend". I also do not accept friendships from people that have not kept up with me OR do not PM me. I am not friending anyone that is just curious. They either want to reconnect or they are just nosey. Don't need nosey.

I also do not friend family...unless they are living outside the US and I want to keep up with them. Why? The family I want to keep up with already know what I am up to...the others are just drama waiting to happen. Sooo, ILs - no way in hell. My mom? Nope because I see her daily. My sister? Nope because she is friends with everyone and her privacy settings suck. I don't want any of my info getting out to anyone I do not wish to know what I am up to.

I am FB bitchy enough? Seriously though, my rules cut out a lot of unnecessary drama.

[Phoebe]

I don't really send friend requests very often. People don't ask me that often either. I don't have particular boundaries. But, I don't feel bad about not accepting a friend request as long as they aren't family.


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[ladymoreta]

I accept almost any friend request if I know the person. I don't really have any drama to hide, and I unfollow people who post too much drama or sales pitches but leave them as friends.

[v-girl]

If I would be willing to get together with a person for lunch, I'll accept their friend request.


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[oceanchild]

I am friends with a lot of my coworkers and have never had an issue with it. *shrug*

I recently set a standard that if someone showed up in my town and I would make no effort to get together with them, they probably aren't really my friends, and I've unfriended some folks as a result of that. Mostly tangential high school and college acquaintances.

[Pollyanna]

Eh, I'm pretty easy going. If I know a person and they want to be friends then cool beans to me . I don't get worked up about differing opinions and sales pitches. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I choose my reaction.