Synchronized sleep schedules

[gcuthbe1]

So [MENTION=1164]reciprocity[/MENTION] and I finally met up last night, and he brought up that he is on his wife's sleep schedule. Well, my husband would LOVE if I were on his sleep schedule. I've tried unsuccessfully but this is how I feel about mornings
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I wanted to poll the audience here and see what is most common. Do you all try to be on your medical spouses' sleep schedule? Even when they're getting up at 5am?

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[JDAZ11]

We're on the same schedule now. I was always a night owl, but we lived in a studio apt together in nyc... So one of us had to adjust, obviously me (as usual!!).


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[SoonerTexan]

I try to go to bed earlier when he has to but nope, I'm not up that early if I don't have to be


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[Howfunitis]

When we live together I'm never on his sleep schedule. I try to go to sleep by 10pm when he does but if I have other things to do then I'll stay up. I can't for the life of me wake up at 4:30/5am or 7am. Lately my wake up time is 8:30 when Ms M wakes up. Slowly transitioning from night owl but I sure do love my sleep


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[Bittersweet]

No way. I rarely even hear him leave in the mornings. i wouldn't be good company and hes out the door 30 minutes after his alarm goes off. Not worth it for us.

[oceanchild]

I get up earlier than DH 99% of the time. Even when he's on service. I am slower at getting ready, I like to eat my breakfast sitting down, and I mostly get our son ready in the morning. We generally go to bed at the same time, but I think that's more him putting himself on my schedule than the other way around.

[OrionGrad]

Yep. I try to be in bed around 9:30 and up at 5!

[reciprocity]

Yup! Unless I'm up super late for something else (like post 1am) I'll wake up with her (5am usually) and make a pot of coffee and fill her thermos. Once I've done all that (and have half a pot of coffee staring me down) I tend to just start my day. I like writing first thing in the morning. When I used to have an office job I liked getting into the office early and getting stuff done before people showed up and started being distractions.

I've always been pretty good at forcing myself awake! The joys of coaching morning rowing practices and post-traumatic night terrors I guess.

Sometimes I'll even switch my schedule for nights if I'm mostly freelancing those weeks.

[Deebs]

DH has no sleep schedule (he's EM), but I wish he'd adjust to mine on his days off!


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[spotty_dog]

Yep, when he's working DH goes to bed around midnight and gets up around 8-8:30. Although I need to be up about 7-7:30 at the latest to deal with kids, I stay up with him, because that quiet time as he winds down after work and we read books or look at funny internet videos is surprisingly relationship-building for us. And then he's always catching up on sleep on his days off, so he goes to bed at 9-10, and I usually go with the flow on that too, unless I'm really amped or need to finish a chapter of my book or something.

That said, I can't decide if it has the same effect when it comes to getting up early. I frequently try to get up with him if he has a morning meeting, but it's not shared time, it's just both of us chugging down our coffee and trying to face the day time. So I don't really feel compelled to make as much effort to be present with him in the morning like at night. I usually do go ahead and get moving around the time he leaves on those days (admittedly I'm talking 6:45, not 5am! Eep!)

[rufflesanddots]

I know DH would love it if I got up with him at 5:00, but I usually sleep until 7:00. He surfs the web or studies once he's up, so I'd probably distract him anyway. We do usually go to bed together though!

[MrsC]

No, we're both way too grumpy in the morning for this to ever work. He gets up around 5, I get up when DS wakes around 7. We usually go to bed at 10 and I read for an hour or so. I'm a night owl too but now I'm on DS's schedule.

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[alotofyarn]

Not at all. He goes to bed around 8-9 a lot of nights, and I need more me time (or sometimes time to do work) in the evenings after E goes to bed. Sometimes I'll go in and lay with him for a bit, but I don't go to bed until around 10 usually and wake up at 6. He wakes up anywhere between 4:30 and 6, depending on when they have cases and are rounding, so sometimes I see him in the morning while we're getting ready, and sometimes I don't.

[poky]

Yeah, no. EM here, too. Our sleep schedule is almost never in sync. I try to keep mine mostly constant, just for the routine.

[gem]

Ha, what's a sleep schedule? DH's residency has lots of overnight call and night float, and if he does have a rare rotation that allows for a daily routine it doesn't last more than a few weeks. Meanwhile I'm dealing with kids who need a lot of night time parenting. We sleep when we can and are grateful for every minute we can squeeze in!