Taking one for the Team

[DCJenn]

Ok, I want you all to remember and to remind me in a few months that this was MY idea, OK?

Since this is the last year of fellowship and the beloved will have to take the boards shortly after we arrive at our next home, I decided he needs to have a consistent study time, away from phones, tvs, and people. He is one of those people who procrastinates but also fumes about his procrastination. A hideously annoying combination, I must say.

I told him on Sunday that he could have 8-11pm everyday except Saturday and all day at least one weekend day to study. and then I made him actually go into his office and I ignored him the entire evening. (and busted him on a 'study break' killing aliens. I may just unload the computer game, which may cause him to divorce me)

I figure that way he'll have time with the little dude (at least for now) from the time he gets home from work until bedtime. I'll catch up with him at some point, and we can always occasionally deviate from the plan.

So, am I nuts? Am I a control-freak? (yes) Am I babysitting at 37 year old man? (yes)

Jenn

So- like I said, when I start complaining that we never do anything fun, he never talks to me, and all he does is study- remind me....really!!!

[Sheherezade]

I have to do this with DH too. You are a good wife --not a control freak. I'm sure he counts on you (subconsciously,of course ) to nag him to do these things. I've been making DH stay late one night a week to keep his paperwork under control I can't believe it's me telling him to come home at 9 pm when he's "done" at 6.

I call it investing in my long-term sanity (and his, too, I guess). We have study hour from 8:30 to 10:30 everynight 6 days a week. A regular party around here, I tell 'ya. :gossip:

[PrincessFiona]

Sadly, my husband 'takes one for the team' on a regular basis by reminding ME of things I need to get done. He has even been known to...ummmm...unplug the 'puter so that I can't get online if I'm on a deadline. He knows me too well.

kris

I have taken a similar one for our team, allowing dh to go straight to a coffee house after work and not return 'til midnight for the past 5 weeks (same thing on weekends). The only exceptions were his brother's wedding, and a party my friends threw for us last week (which dh was a jerk about attending).

[Phoebe]

I'm right there with you babe!

It is a great idea! DH is doing everything to procrastinate and avoid the inevitable. I am tyring to help him get settled in to his new office before everything starts on Monday.

I wonder how we will get into a routine now.

Miranda

I did that for two years while Dh was taking evening classes and going to volunteer in prep for applying to med school.

Kinda sad, but when he became availible to help more, the kids schedules became nightmarish for awhile.


Edited to add that once he gets to school and gets his laptop, I am goign to have to figure out a way for it to reject game uploads...

[samssugarmomma]

You are a braver, stronger woman than I am! I tried taking one for the team and only lasted two weeks.

Oh, I'm the more distractable. I just haven't had any work related deadlines in a little while. I have gotten better though. A while back, I had to have solitaire removed from my computer. Now I keep a safe distance from any addictive games and just don't start them (and come here instead! ).

[SueC]

I'm impressed--I occasionally ask my dh (who is taking his last set of boards this fall) if he ought to be studying, but that's about it. Maybe I should crack down on him, since he is a procastinator as well.